Let us Love Ourselves

Do you still find yourself thinking about a friend or lover who has already left you? Do you still cry when you think of the time you spent with them? If yes, then you are doing wrong to yourself. Of course, some people would say that it's okay to feel what you feel.  That's true! You cannot move on from someone just like that especially when you have invested your time and energy in them.  But for a second, think logically that what are you even doing? Wasting your present moment over someone who doesn't even text you to ask- " if you are okay?"   Feeling stuck in your memory and not being able to enjoy your present life is the most painful thing.  No matter how much we say we don't miss them, it's heartbreaking when something important happens in your life and you want to share it with them but can't. As a result, we must first understand why this hurt so much. Why does it hurt so much? When people are hurting after a breakup, their first thought is ...

If you are a constant reader of my blog, you would be well aware of the times I have used the word "Gratitude" in my blog posts. Even last year I wrote a complete post on the meaning and importance of the same. We all know that "Gratitude" is simply the act of "Being Grateful."  Whenever someone does something for us, we always thank them for their gesture. This Thank You come from our state of being grateful.  But do you know that you can always stay in this state and reap its benefits?   Yes! Appreciating other people does not make them happy alone but it makes you happy too.  It makes you enlightened and top of the joy and you get free from all your worries and problems. Of course, it is not a magic wand that you once use and all your problems will get diminished. However, it makes you aware of the things that you have now rather than complaining about the things that you don't have. How to practice gratitude? The state of being grateful cannot onl...

Are you also someone who takes everything on themselves?  I mean, regardless of what the other person says, do you believe they are doing everything they can to hurt you? You believe that everything they do or say is done with the intent of making you feel bad about yourself. However, most of the time, these things aren't even about you or caused by you. So, if you are constantly putting strain on your mind and experiencing feelings of guilt or unease, you must stop. Because from today onwards you don't need to bother about everything so much. Here you will get seven easy tips that will allow you to take control over yourself, your emotions, and how you respond to the world while not taking things personally. But before we proceed further, we need to know why we take everything on ourselves which leads to emotional unrest. source: pexels Why do we take things personally? Suppose one day you went to your boss to ask something and instead of explaining to you politely, he scolded...

 Whenever someone says about living in the present, we often end up saying- " It's not possible for anyone to just stay in the present and not plan for the future." Yes, being prepared for the future is beneficial. This is why we put our money into investments and savings. However, getting entirely engrossed in the future is a waste of time.   A few days back, someone asked me about my future plans. And to be honest I had nothing to say. I simply answered them with three words- "To Be Happy!"  Yes, this little phrase is my future goal and today's motto. When you are an overthinker, you tend to think a lot about your future and even get dwelled on your past.  But pause for a second and think if it's worth using your mental energy on things that have already happened or might happen in the future! Nobody knows if they would wake up the next day and see the bright sun. So why can't we enjoy the current 24 hours that we have? Let me assure you that I am...

  source:Pexels.com Whenever we feel any out-of-the-blue happiness or pleasure we feel it is because of the outside circumstances or things happening around us.  Most of us de-romanticize happiness based on outside factors be it watching a comedy movie, laughing out loud with friends, scoring good grades, etc.  Although these are just another sort of events happening outside, it's our inner feelings/emotions that make us happy. But the real part is played by our hormones that are present inside our body. It is the hormones that regulate everything from physical function to emotional well-being. It is because of these hormones that we are able to feel happy/sad.  Here we will only talk about the four main "happy hormones" that are responsible for our happiness and how we can make the most of them feel happy instantly.  Types of Happy Hormones 1. Dopamine- Often known as the "neurotransmitter", Dopamine is the most pleasant hormone in our body. It sends signals to...

Are you feeling sad for no obvious reason? Well, sometimes it happens with me too. We all go through such moments once in a while. Sadness over the loss of a loved one, a specific item, or after a breakup is one thing, and being upset for no apparent reason is another. However, there are times when sadness is persistent and doesn't go away. It can be a flashback of the past trauma, childhood memories, or maybe a symptom of depression. This is why it is crucial to recognize what is bothering you and treat it immediately so that it does not harm you. Are you suffering from depression or, is it just your overthinking? Let us find out! source: pexels.com Before we move on to find out the difference between sadness and depression. I want to make it clear to you all that I am not a certified psychologist or a mental health counselor. Nor even I have studied psychology.  This article has been written with the help of all the external resources and my personal findings. While sadness and d...

Attachment, either physical or emotional, helps to keep us going. Some may confuse it with love, while others are aware of their limits. So what is this need of becoming detached from others? Why do we frequently hear from others that they require space or that they wish to withdraw from a particular relationship?  Usually when the attachment is more from one side or when one person is giving more into a relationship they become emotionally dependent on someone.  Attachment and caring are a part of love. However, when you see yourself willing to do more for others, it means you are dependent on them.  This is why many therapists or motivators ask people to withdraw themselves from others so they do not get hurt. Here we will learn why, when & how to detach from someone. Detaching or detachment does not mean you should isolate yourself so that nobody can hurt you. It means to focus on yourself and your needs so that you do not worry about someone else's behavior. It is...