Let us Love Ourselves

We often get so engrossed in our day-to-day lives that we forget who we are. When we are alone, we hate being alone; when we are with someone, we crave at least 30 minutes for ourselves.  And even if we get some time, we waste it by scrolling our feed endlessly and then wonder why we behave a certain way.  In today's time, we all want a perfect and easy-to-do diet plan to get in shape, but have you ever thought about making and following a mental diet plan? What exactly is a mental diet plan?  A mental diet is the deliberate control over what thoughts and information you bring into your mind, just as you would manage your food intake. It is a process of excluding negative or hurtful thoughts and actively choosing positive, encouraging, and inspiring ones. It's a matter of feeding your mind thoughts that create wellness and constructive change. I know this can be when you are dealing with outside circumstances that may not be in your favor. But think for a moment how much ...

How often do you pass remarks casually to someone jokingly or just passing by? It happens all the time, right?  Have you ever considered how those words would make the other person feel? Probably not. The worst part? We don't make these casual, often harsh statements to strangers. Instead, we say them to those we claim to love and care about: our parents, siblings, spouse, friends, in-laws, or children. However, we rarely pause to consider whether our comments have harmed someone. We think we are just joking, but we never realize that the other person might take it seriously and feel deeply hurt. Sometimes, a simple remark can be enough to make someone feel “worthless,” “useless,” or “unlovable.” Its their problem, they took it personally! You might dismiss their feelings by saying, "if they are crying over silly things, its their problem." Yes, it is their problem! But as someone who cares for them, dont you think you should not have said what you felt?  Most  people...

Some days, when we are full of energy, happy, and vibrant, we say, "Life is amazing." But other days, when we are sad, lonely, and fearful, we curse our lives and our whole journey. Some experiences can be good, while others can be bad, but they are all based on how we view any situation. Thus, our life experiences are based on thoughts and feelings.  How we think about ourselves and the world can change how we go through life. The good news is that we can make good things happen by thinking happy thoughts and controlling our feelings. So today, let's explore some ways through which we can cultivate some inner peace and happiness independent of external circumstances. Taking charge of your emotions Feelings like sadness, anger, loneliness, and fear are all normal but they can be too hard to handle. What we do is try to avoid these emotions by busying ourselves into movies, eating junk, drinking alcohol, etc.  So it is crucial not to avoid your emotions, but to learn how ...

Sunday is often hailed as the day of rest and relaxation, a time to recharge before the start of a new week. However, for some individuals, it can be a day fraught with anxiety and sadness, commonly known as "Sunday depression" or "Sunday blues."  This phenomenon is characterized by a sense of gloom, anxiety, and a looming feeling of dread about the upcoming workweek.  This blog will explore the root causes of Sunday depression and provide practical tips to overcome it, ensuring a more positive and productive start to the week. So let's get started.. Understanding Sunday Depression Sunday depression is not a clinical term but rather a widely experienced emotional state that impacts a significant number of people. Several factors contribute to this feeling: 1. Transition Anxiety: Sundays signify transitioning from a leisurely weekend to a work-driven week, triggering anxiety about the responsibilities and challenges ahead. 2. Unfinished Tasks: If the weekend was...

  If you have read my ebook  "It All Starts With You" , you already know what topic I am going to write about here. In that e-book, I have already shared the importance of self-care and why putting yourself over others is not selfish. I don't know what inspired me, but in this blog post, I again want to talk about the same. Perhaps because self-care is still undervalued today. Part of the cultural society, especially when it comes to women are believed to be a superwoman. They are considered to work and do stuff for others and never get tired. In fact, men too are thought to be emotionless and robust because they are never seen expressing their concerns like women and being vulnerable. Therefore, self-care and putting yourself before others are essential for everyone irrespective of gender.  The real issue arises when we consider elevating ourselves above others. When we love our family, spouse, friends, and children, we tend to consider their needs above ours and how we ...

Do your eyes hurt after staring at your phone for long periods? This feeling of depletion and tiredness is probably because you are suffering from digital exhaustion. Just like our bodies feel burnout after doing so much work physically, in the same way, our minds too feel exhausted. The constant connectivity online makes us disconnected from ourselves and our reality. We may feel good watching what others are up to on social media but that also leads to negative self-talk and comparison. Repetitively watching news online can deteriorate your mental health and impact it most terribly. The research reveals that screentime has dramatically increased in the last two years during COVID-19. With online studying and working from home, there has been a prolonged use of digital technology. While this may appear to be the obvious decision at the time, too much screen time can become an addiction for you, much like alcohol and drugs, and may cause you to develop ailments you haven't even con...

Today, everyone talks about self-care, mental health, and emotional needs. Many applications have been developed, both free and paid, that act as therapy for you. While it's not a new concept, my motive for writing a self-care blog post is that we could get more clarity and understanding behind it. Only by prioritizing self-care can we meet our mental and emotional needs. Do you know self-care can improve your mental health?  Let's talk about what self-care is and how we may include it in our everyday routines. What is self-care? Everyone has a different approach to self-care. For an extrovert person- it might be going out and chilling with his friends. On the other hand, an introverted person is happier spending time alone in his home. Self-care is nothing but taking care of one's emotional, mental, and physical needs. Some believe that doing daily chores such as getting up in the morning, brushing their teeth, taking a shower, etc, is self-care. While for others, these th...

  The moment you wake up, you start surfing your social media to see what your friends or people whom you don't like in real life (but you are still following them over social media) have posted. If someone is putting a story of them running or working out, your first thought in the morning would be- "They are getting fit and I am still fat or ugly"!  And from that moment,  you curse or doubt yourself the whole day because you think that you are unable to do things that others are doing. This was 1 side.  The other side could be: You hurry to get ready for work an hour before it begins. Before heading out the door, you shower quickly and grab an energy bar and a cup of coffee. The day has not even started yet and you feel exhausted and by the end of the week, you are all so drained up and burnt. This week again you couldn't reach your weekly goals and the cycle goes on and on... So what is the exact way to set your life back on track? How can you set a morning routin...

Have you ever felt like a victim? Do you self-pity all the time?  Do you think the whole world is against you and no one seems to care about you? Well if you do so or if you know someone who always thinks he is helpless and powerless then it may be because of victim mentality. Who is a victim? A victim is someone who has been robbed, attacked, humiliated, tortured physically. But when someone intentionally tries to divert the situation around himself, we might say, "He is playing a victim card!" Why? Because we can easily understand that nothing has happened to him or nobody tortured him, still he is self-pitying himself for no reason. In general, we all are victims. At one point or other, we all have felt helpless. While some of us ditched our helplessness and stood firm but others couldn't leave their victim mindset.  Signs of a victim mentality Not everyone purposely plays a sympathy card, sometimes they don't know how to overcome a situation that leads to them bei...