Let us Love Ourselves

Do you still find yourself thinking about a friend or lover who has already left you?

Do you still cry when you think of the time you spent with them?

If yes, then you are doing wrong to yourself.

Of course, some people would say that it's okay to feel what you feel.

That's true! You cannot move on from someone just like that especially when you have invested your time and energy in them.

why cry over someone who won't even text to see if you are alright?

But for a second, think logically that what are you even doing? Wasting your present moment over someone who doesn't even text you to ask- "if you are okay?"

Feeling stuck in your memory and not being able to enjoy your present life is the most painful thing.

No matter how much we say we don't miss them, it's heartbreaking when something important happens in your life and you want to share it with them but can't.

As a result, we must first understand why this hurt so much.

Why does it hurt so much?

When people are hurting after a breakup, their first thought is usually, "How long will this last?" Of course, there is no one-size-fits-all solution to this problem. But we need to go inside it deeply and find out its root.

Relationships hold great importance in our lives. To survive and thrive, humans depend upon each other. And when any relationship fails, you lose the meaning that comes with it. We experience pain in both personal and professional relationships which cause us misery and agony. And losing one's significance is similar to losing a piece of oneself. As a result, your relationships, sense of meaning and purpose, and sense of self are all entangled.

This empty void of loneliness either gets us into depression or on the wrong path. Therefore it is essential to take the help of your loved ones or a professional during this time.

What does your body undergo during this moment?

The first thing I want to tell you is that it's fine to express your feelings since suppressing them will cause your body more pain.

But there should also be a limit to getting sad. You cannot spend your entire day thinking about someone and getting lost. Because when you feel stressed, your body undergoes many problems such as:

Heart pounds faster
Tightening of the muscles
The rise in blood pressure
Low self-esteem
Becoming easily agitated or frustrated
Upset stomach
Headache
Low energy
Chest pain
Insomnia
Frequent colds and infection
Weak immune system

There are a lot more emotional and internal issues that our bodies face when we are constantly sad or depressed. As a result, we must find a way to prevent ourselves from succumbing to depression and facing serious problems.

In this blog, you won't find any tools or techniques to get over someone. But here, we will learn some ways to enjoy the process of healing in a better way.

Ways to get over someone and heal yourself

Here are some of the practices one can follow that will help him move on in his life and do something better.

1. Accept your feelings- Just like we mourn over the death of someone, in the same way, we mourn when a friend or lover leaves our life. This mourning and grieving are not wrong. They were once with you and are now gone, so it's natural to miss them and think about them. It is reasonable to grieve the end of a relationship for some time. "Allow yourself to suffer. Get everything out of your system emotionally so you can move on. Have your breakdowns ready." Holding it in will cause the process of moving on to be slowed.

2. Stop your inner critic- The voice you hear from your inside which is negative most of the time is known as the "inner critic." This merciless "voice" critiques, instructs and even pities us (and others) in ways that undermine us while we're on top and kick us down when we're on the bottom. When you become caught up in your thoughts, it's far tougher to figure out how to move forward. Stop listening to this voice as soon as you hear it since it does not understand your worth.

3. Thank them for the life lessons- Instead of thinking about what they must be doing or where you stand in your life, thank them for all the life lessons they have taught you. Every person who comes into our lives is either a blessing or a lesson. Think about the good times when they have supported you, picked you up, and all the beautiful moments you guys have spent together.

4. Take outside help- You cannot spend your entire day mourning over your broken relationship or friendship or else, you will fall sick. Instead, seek the support of your family members and closest friends. Spend time with them. Call them frequently, but don't bring up the same person you were crying about. They can help you cross off the bridge you were afraid to step onto.

5. Invest in yourself- This is the ideal time to focus solely on yourself and ensure that all of your needs are met. "Pay attention to your self-development and self-esteem because they can suffer at times." Whether it's through exercise or a hobby, do something that you enjoy doing, or learning. So you feel like you're reclaiming your best self and regaining your confidence."

6. Stop expecting closure- It is the hardest part of the healing. When someone stops talking to us or leaves us, we expect them to give us closure, which hinders our healing. But most of the time they don't This creates more pain and hurt. So we should let them go without expecting anything in return.

7. Stop communicating if it bothers you- This goes hand in hand with taking space from someone on social media. If you continue to talk to the person or hook up with them, it will just be that much harder to get over them in the long run, particularly if you are secretly hoping for a change of heart.

8. Know your worth- Remember that someone else leaving you does not make you unworthy or unlovable. You did your best and, you loved them with all your heart. If they still want to go, let them go. Focus on loving yourself and making yourself better.

Related: 20 ways to practice self-love

Final Words

It's fine to miss someone, but it's not right to allow it negatively impact your mental and physical well-being. If you find yourself thinking about someone more than you should, use these techniques to heal yourself.

If you are a constant reader of my blog, you would be well aware of the times I have used the word "Gratitude" in my blog posts.

Even last year I wrote a complete post on the meaning and importance of the same.

We all know that "Gratitude" is simply the act of "Being Grateful."

Whenever someone does something for us, we always thank them for their gesture. This Thank You come from our state of being grateful.

But do you know that you can always stay in this state and reap its benefits?

Yes! Appreciating other people does not make them happy alone but it makes you happy too.

It makes you enlightened and top of the joy and you get free from all your worries and problems.

Of course, it is not a magic wand that you once use and all your problems will get diminished. However, it makes you aware of the things that you have now rather than complaining about the things that you don't have.

How to practice gratitude?

The state of being grateful cannot only be achieved when something happens in your favor but you can always be grateful irrespective of the event or situation.

The more aware you are of your blessings, the happier you become!

One can easily develop an "attitude of gratitude" by following these practices such as:

Writing about three or five things that you are grateful for every day.
Appreciating nature. For example trees, birds, planets, etc
Randomly telling someone that you are grateful to have them in your life.
Doing an act of kindness for others.
Focusing on the small things you have in your life.
Sending thanks to someone in your prayer.

There are so many ways you can be grateful. Here are 40 ways by Lifehack to implement gratitude in your daily life.

Life-Changing Benefits of Gratitude That Will Change Your Life

1. Gratitude makes us happy- When you practice gratitude, your brain releases happy hormones which make you feel content and happy. Studies have shown that practicing gratitude daily for 10 minutes helps a person to come out of depression more quickly than medications.

2. It boosts our immune system- Evidence suggests that the more appreciative a person is, the better his or her physical and mental health will be. As a result, some research also suggests that cultivating a more grateful mindset now may help to prevent sickness later in life.

3. It improves our mental health- For many years, many psychologists and researchers have recommended gratitude to alleviate stress and trauma in a person's life. When you are grateful, you are free of toxic emotions and aligned with feelings of happiness and optimism.

4. It improves our relationships- When you express gratitude to your loved ones for the small things they do for you, it helps to improve the quality of your relationship with them. Recognizing other people's contributions can lead to better relationships so whether you thank a stranger for holding the door or send a thank-you email to a coworker who assisted you with a project. You will witness immense upgrades in your relationships.

5. It increases our self-esteem- People who use gratitude as a part of their daily life feel less envy and resentment towards others. They feel better about themselves, thus increasing their confidence level.

6. It makes us more kind- Gratitude can reduce our self-centeredness, which is beneficial to both ourselves and others. Evidence suggests that encouraging thankfulness in participants makes them more likely to engage with others.

7. Gratitude improves our sleep- Do you count sheep when you are not able to sleep? Then try counting your blessings. You will be able to sleep and feel better when you know that you are surrounded by many blessings in your life.

8. Gratitude increases your productivity- One factor that can assist people in finding meaning in their work is gratitude. Practicing gratitude daily can enhance your productivity skills which increase your focus on your work. Those who find meaning and purpose in their work are more likely to be effective and fulfilled in their careers.

Final Reminder

Being grateful makes us available to abundance and all the good things in life.

Gratitude has changed me a lot. I came to know about it in 2020 and started applying it.

I use this application which I even recommended last year to write my gratitude journal.

Hope it helps you too!

Are you also someone who takes everything on themselves?

I mean, regardless of what the other person says, do you believe they are doing everything they can to hurt you?

You believe that everything they do or say is done with the intent of making you feel bad about yourself. However, most of the time, these things aren't even about you or caused by you.

So, if you are constantly putting strain on your mind and experiencing feelings of guilt or unease, you must stop.

Because from today onwards you don't need to bother about everything so much.

Here you will get seven easy tips that will allow you to take control over yourself, your emotions, and how you respond to the world while not taking things personally.

But before we proceed further, we need to know why we take everything on ourselves which leads to emotional unrest.

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Why do we take things personally?

Suppose one day you went to your boss to ask something and instead of explaining to you politely, he scolded you for not being attentive and for various other reasons.

You went out of his cabin and started feeling bad about yourself. You took his behavior on a personal level and got hurt by the words he said to you.

You might think that if you were more smart and intelligent this would not have had happened to you.

But this is completely incorrect. Many of us struggle with the idea that everything revolves around ourselves when it most certainly does not.

Yes, your boss might be right on a certain level and, you may need to improve and be more productive but his behavior towards you was never your fault.

His behavior is nothing but an emotional infection that leads him to say those words.

Life will be so much better if we don't take everything so personally. However, because this is a human thought pattern, it is more prevalent than you might believe. We have a tendency to take personal responsibility for events over which we have little or no influence.

This is why we need to stop taking things on a personal level.

7 easy ways to stop taking things personally

1. Don't bother much about people- In the end, It's your life and only you are responsible for it so why give others the remote control? You should only focus on yourself and the people who genuinely care for you. People will come, speak and leave. But you have to live. So live happily.

2. Take a pause before concluding- When we hear something we didn't expect to hear, we often jump to conclusions, blaming ourselves and others. This is why according to Psychology Today, jumping to conclusions is not only bad for your relationships but also bad for your mental health.

3. Know that everyone's beliefs are different- If you greet someone and they don't greet you back, what do you do? You may wonder what you did wrong in the past that they did not wish you today! But, before you stress your mind out for the rest of the day over the same incident, remember that everyone is unique. If you greet someone, it means you believe it is polite to do the same, but the other person may not agree or may be upset about something else.

4. Be confident- Confidence is the key to happiness. Improving your self-confidence provides you with a reasonable level of resistance to other people's behaviors and opinions. That self-assurance functions as a barrier, preventing you from reacting negatively to a negative comment about yourself and allowing it to dictate your thinking.

5. Stay busy- If you are occupied with a lot of stuff you will hardly find time to focus on things that don't matter. This is why it is essential to fill the empty space in your life with your work, hobbies, family, friends, etc so that you will not walk on the line of overthinking.

6. Stop making assumptions- Another way to stop yourself from getting hurt or take things personally is to stop making assumptions. Misinterpretation or miscommunication can break the relation between two persons. Someone may take something personally because they misunderstood what another person said. In such a case, an unintentional compliment can be misconstrued as a satirical remark.

7. Know your worth- You don't always need to stay with someone else to be happy. Know that your happiness is an inside job and you are the unique creation of God. Enjoy your own company. Do the things that give you an inner sense of peace or happiness. Focus on improving yourself and don't do anything intentionally to show someone else that you are happy.

Conclusion

You will not instantly learn all of the above tips but with hard work and persistence, you will slowly start applying these methods in your life and live a stress-free life.

Till then Be kind. Love yourself!

Whenever someone says about living in the present, we often end up saying- " It's not possible for anyone to just stay in the present and not plan for the future."

Yes, being prepared for the future is beneficial. This is why we put our money into investments and savings. However, getting entirely engrossed in the future is a waste of time.

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A few days back, someone asked me about my future plans. And to be honest I had nothing to say. I simply answered them with three words- "To Be Happy!"

Yes, this little phrase is my future goal and today's motto.

When you are an overthinker, you tend to think a lot about your future and even get dwelled on your past.

But pause for a second and think if it's worth using your mental energy on things that have already happened or might happen in the future!

Nobody knows if they would wake up the next day and see the bright sun. So why can't we enjoy the current 24 hours that we have?

Let me assure you that I am not pessimistic. I am just making you realize the importance of living in the present moment.

Ask yourself when were you fully aware of the moment?

Even while you're out with your friends, you're constantly thinking about something, whether it's your parents, your job, your relationship, or something else entirely

At that moment, you are not even exactly listening to what your friends are talking about and, you ask them to repeat what they have just said.

This constant anxiety about the past and future does not allow us to live happily.

Thus, living in the present is the only solution to be happy.

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What is the meaning of living in the present moment?

To live in the present moment means to be fully aware of your surroundings and your thoughts. It means that you are conscious of what you are speaking, thinking, and listening to.

Louise Hay says that

The point of power is always in the present moment!

Being present in the moment not only relieves stress but also improves your health and relationships. It aids in the reduction of anxiety, reduces worrying and rumination, and keeps you grounded and connected to yourself and everything around you.

How can I start living in the present moment?

You might be thinking of how is it possible for someone to live in the present and not get anxious about the past or future?

Here are 5 easy steps/habits that can help you to live in the moment:

1. Embrace your surroundings- By embracing your surroundings, we imply being aware of what is going on in your surroundings. Be cautious of what you are consuming or listening because whatever will go inside you will enter your subconscious level. For instance, if you are watching disturbing news, turn it off the right way and shift your focus to something peaceful and enjoyable.

2. Stop worrying- Every second you waste worrying about the future is a second you don't get to enjoy the present. It's hard to live in the now and worry at the same time because worrying takes you out of the present moment and into the domain of future possibilities. Instead, if things are getting you down, think about how you can address an issue right now or otherwise improve the situation. Spending time thinking about what might happen later deprives you of completely experiencing what is happening right now.

3. Practice guided meditations- Meditation seems boring to some. However, as you practice it, you begin to align with your inner self and become more aware of what is going on around you. Those who are unable to sit still and meditate can open short guided meditations on YouTube and begin doing whatever the speaker instructs them to do. In this way, you can focus more on your breath and the present moment.

4. Be grateful- Did you appreciate your mom today who does so much for you? Are you grateful for your job that pays your bills? If not, then do it now! Because we often forget our blessings in pursuit of greater things, and when they leave, we are only left with regret and guilt. Try saying "Thank You" to everyone you meet, whether in person or in your mind, and you will discover that life is truly beautiful.

5. Write your journal- Journaling allows you to communicate with your inner self. Because writing down your thoughts cheers up your heart and relaxes you. Instead of overthinking, writing down your thoughts brings you back to the present moment.

Conclusion

Life is too short to hold on to grudges and hatred. Enjoy every moment of your life as much as you can.

If something is bothering you, take slow steps. Instead of worrying about the uncertain times, try to take one day at a time. Solve today's problems first and be happy today.

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Whenever we feel any out-of-the-blue happiness or pleasure we feel it is because of the outside circumstances or things happening around us.

Most of us de-romanticize happiness based on outside factors be it watching a comedy movie, laughing out loud with friends, scoring good grades, etc.

Although these are just another sort of events happening outside, it's our inner feelings/emotions that make us happy.

But the real part is played by our hormones that are present inside our body. It is the hormones that regulate everything from physical function to emotional well-being. It is because of these hormones that we are able to feel happy/sad.

Here we will only talk about the four main "happy hormones" that are responsible for our happiness and how we can make the most of them feel happy instantly.

Types of Happy Hormones

1. Dopamine- Often known as the "neurotransmitter", Dopamine is the most pleasant hormone in our body. It sends signals to the brains which spike our happiness. According to insider.com when you eat something good or hear your favorite song, it is the dopamine that is sending you "feel happy" signals.

2. Seratonin- Seratonin is another form of neurotransmitter after Dopamine as it helps to regulate your mood, appetite, and digestion. It is an important aspect of depression because when a person is depressed he is given medications that increase his Seratonin hormone. Exercising, spending some outdoor time, or getting a good sleep of 7-9 hours increases the Seratonin hormonal level in the body.

3. Oxytocin- Another "happy hormone" which makes us happy is Oxytocin. This hormone is also known as love hormone. This hormone can also aid in the development of trust, empathy, and bonding in relationships, and oxytocin levels rise with physical affection such as kissing, cuddling, and sex.

4. Endorphin- Endorphins are hormones that are released in the body when you do something you enjoy, such as exercise, sex, eating sweets, laughing, or listening to music. These potent hormones act as natural pain relievers, reducing discomfort while increasing pleasure.

5 easy ways to increase happy hormones and live a happier life

1. Goal Achievement- When you achieve a goal, no matter how small, your brain's reward system activates and releases dopamine. This not only gives the body a small boost of feel-good chemicals, but it also motivates us to achieve more goals.

2. Workout- Exercise has been shown to raise dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, and oxytocin levels. Most people are aware that exercise causes the release of endorphins. Any type of movement that raises your heart rate will give you a good feeling, and a vigorous, pulse-raising workout can cause exercise-induced euphoria.

3. Physical intimacy- So have you ever felt happy after huggling or kissing someone? Ofcourse, you did! That's what our love hormone "oxytocin" does. The adrenaline rush and the burning sensation that we feel after being cuddled is the effect of the oxytocin hormone. So, try planning out a date night with your partner and feel the magic of love and happiness all around.

4. Good songs- Music can boost more than one of your happy hormones. Listening to instrumental music, particularly music that gives you chills, can boost dopamine production in your brain. Put your headphones on and listen to your favorite tunes if you want to brighten your mood instantly.

5. Favorite meal- If you eat healthily and right there's no such thing as sadness that will appear near you. High protein foods like meat, fish, and dark chocolate are considered mood-boosting foods. Therefore, to increase your serotonin hormone, one must eat right and healthy.

Conclusion

Happy hormones play an important role in making us happy and content. Never believe that you can't change your mood or that you need someone else to make you feel better.

Only you have the choice to change your current reality.

Think happy. Be happy!

Are you feeling sad for no obvious reason? Well, sometimes it happens with me too. We all go through such moments once in a while.

Sadness over the loss of a loved one, a specific item, or after a breakup is one thing, and being upset for no apparent reason is another.

However, there are times when sadness is persistent and doesn't go away. It can be a flashback of the past trauma, childhood memories, or maybe a symptom of depression.

This is why it is crucial to recognize what is bothering you and treat it immediately so that it does not harm you.

Are you suffering from depression or, is it just your overthinking? Let us find out!

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Before we move on to find out the difference between sadness and depression. I want to make it clear to you all that I am not a certified psychologist or a mental health counselor. Nor even I have studied psychology.

This article has been written with the help of all the external resources and my personal findings.

While sadness and depression are two different things. Sadness is just another symptom of depression that can take a toll on our personal lives if not addressed at the right time.

More symptoms of depression along with sadness:

According to verywellmind.com, here are some of the serious symptoms you need to put concern onto;

anxiety or feeling anxious
increased irritability
chest feeling heavy
guilty of past things
change in sleep patterns
insomnia
lack of energy
unexplained pain or digestive issues
lack of concentration or decision making
not doing things that make you happy

If you have been facing any of these symptoms along with persistent sadness for more than two weeks in a row, you must go consult with a professional counselor.

Other Reasons Which Make You Sad

Sometimes sadness can arrive to remind us that we need to take care of our mental and emotional health. If you are only feeling sad but also experiencing one or two symptoms mentioned above then you need to check for the following reasons:

→ You have no one to talk to.

→ Your periods are about to start.

→ You are constantly overthinking.

→ You feel less motivated to do things.

→ You feel exhausted.

→ There is the pressure at work.

Tips To Take Care Of Your Mental Health When Feeling Sad/Low

1. Share your emotions with others- When feeling sad or irritated, most of us step back from our family members and friends. We don't want anyone around us, which amplifies our situation. Hence, it is important to talk out, to let your heart explode what it is holding into. No matter if you talk to at least one close friend, but do share your feelings.

2. Listen to music- You often tend to listen to sad music when you are already sad. Isn't it? But that's what makes things worse. I mean just think about it for a second. Someone who is already sick and you are making them sicker by telling them the stories of people who died with the same disease. Therefore instead of mournful music, listen to upbeat music that stimulates happy hormones.

3. Go out- What if only stepping outside your home can resolve 50% of your problem? You might have heard from your loved ones saying- "Go out for a walk if you are not feeling good." This is because sunlight stimulates the production of serotonin in the brain. Therefore, spending more time in the sun can boost serotonin levels and potentially alleviate depression.

4. Give yourself a break- We may not realize, sometimes even overworking can exhaust us mentally. The reason behind your sadness can be a stressful and no break life. Try pulling your hair down, give yourself a much-needed mental break because you deserve that!

5. Practice guided meditation- You would be astonished to know that just taking out 10 minutes from your day for a daily guided meditation can reap huge benefits in your life. Many people practice it daily in a way to reduce their stress and improve their sleeping patterns.

Here's a 10 minute guided meditation for you all:

Bottom Line-

These are some self-help remedies that may help to alleviate the burden you are carrying on your chest. Mind you, if these are not helping you on any terms, take the help of a professional coach.

Remember you have survived before and, you will survive now.

I hope this helps you!

Attachment, either physical or emotional, helps to keep us going. Some may confuse it with love, while others are aware of their limits.

So what is this need of becoming detached from others? Why do we frequently hear from others that they require space or that they wish to withdraw from a particular relationship?

Usually when the attachment is more from one side or when one person is giving more into a relationship they become emotionally dependent on someone.

Attachment and caring are a part of love. However, when you see yourself willing to do more for others, it means you are dependent on them. This is why many therapists or motivators ask people to withdraw themselves from others so they do not get hurt.

Here we will learn why, when & how to detach from someone.

Detaching or detachment does not mean you should isolate yourself so that nobody can hurt you. It means to focus on yourself and your needs so that you do not worry about someone else's behavior.

It is the ability to emotionally disconnect from another person. Also, it suggests that you are willing to cut all links from another person emotionally and physically. Although physical space or separation can help us set boundaries and center ourselves, this is not what detaching entails.

Why do you need to detach now?

Detachment is a state of mind that, if cultivated, may be extremely beneficial in one's life. It's fine to form attachments with others, whether they're close friends or family members, but if they're causing you to lose your mind, you should cut ties with them right there.

Let's take an example- Sia has four friends. They all hang out with each other almost every weekend. Sia is happy with them because she gets positive vibes whenever she meets them. However, two of Sia's friends meet alone and do not inform her. They've started hiding things from her now. But Sia is so emotionally attached to them that she can't sleep at night, wondering why her friends are behaving this way.

In this case, Sia is suffering a lot emotionally because she has vested her feelings in them.

Yes, I know you would say that it's okay for Sia to feel this way. Many of us would get hurt knowing that our friends are hiding something from us.

But this is what attachment does to us. It sucks out our happiness and brings us to the point where we have to ask others to give us attention and love.

Why?

Why do I have to ask others to involve me in their conversations?

That is why DETACHMENT matters! When you mentally set your boundaries, you are aware that everyone has their own set of behaviors and will do what they believe is right. You will not be bothered.

When should you detach from someone?

You may be wondering the right time to detach from others. Detachment is nothing but putting all focus on ourselves rather than others. It simply means to let go of what other people do or think, no matter how close you are.

So if you want to know when is the right time to step back from someone emotionally, ask yourself these questions:

Does your happiness rely on others?

Are you available for someone every time they ask you?

Do you spend time worrying about other people's problems?

Do you have strong emotional reactions to other people's ideas, thoughts, feelings, and judgments?

Do you put your career, hobbies, activities, or friends on hold because of a relationship?

Do you wonder what others are doing and thinking?

Therefore, if you ever find yourself in such situations, it's time to become emotionally free.

How to detach from someone?

To detach, you must first accept the situation as it is. Once you are aware of the fact that this thing is sucking your mental peace.

Here are some tips that might help you to remove yourself from negativity and misery:

1. Build your identity- It's time for some self-love baby. There are more than enough facts that say self-love is the key to a better and high-vibrating personality. So you must start doing things that fulfill your life's purpose and make you happy.

Related: Why you need to love yourself?

2. Forgive yourself & others- Detachment also necessitates the ability to forgive. What has happened in the past cannot be undone. We cannot go back into our past and ask others why they behaved in a certain way. So it's better to forgive ourselves as well as others if we want peace.

Related: Forgive and set yourself free

3. Set boundaries- Drawing a line between yourself and the other person to ensure that your mental health does not get harmed is known as setting boundaries. Hence, if you want to stay away from people who disturb you emotionally, you need to practice setting emotional boundaries.

4. Learn to let go- Letting go of a toxic, unhealthy, and negative relationship can mean that you have lost a piece of yourself. Because you were so emotionally invested in another person, you may believe that it is true. But, in reality, you've become a new person.

5. Align with God- My relationship with God has always saved me. Now it's time for you to protect yourself from misery. We all know that the only relation that will never hurt our sentiments but instead will help to uplift us is our relationship with the highest power. So, start meditating and chanting God's name and he will take you out from misery.

Conclusion

Your life is a precious gift by God for you. Don't waste it by consuming the negativity of other people. Practice detachment whenever you find yourself in an oppressing situation. Stay away from those who do not fit in your life's journey.

Do you still find yourself thinking about a friend or lover who has already left you?

Do you still cry when you think of the time you spent with them?

If yes, then you are doing wrong to yourself.

Of course, some people would say that it's okay to feel what you feel.

That's true! You cannot move on from someone just like that especially when you have invested your time and energy in them.

But for a second, think logically that what are you even doing? Wasting your present moment over someone who doesn't even text you to ask- "if you are okay?"

Feeling stuck in your memory and not being able to enjoy your present life is the most painful thing.

No matter how much we say we don't miss them, it's heartbreaking when something important happens in your life and you want to share it with them but can't.

As a result, we must first understand why this hurt so much.

Why does it hurt so much?

This empty void of loneliness either gets us into depression or on the wrong path. Therefore it is essential to take the help of your loved ones or a professional during this time.

What does your body undergo during this moment?

The first thing I want to tell you is that it's fine to express your feelings since suppressing them will cause your body more pain.

But there should also be a limit to getting sad. You cannot spend your entire day thinking about someone and getting lost. Because when you feel stressed, your body undergoes many problems such as:

Heart pounds faster
Tightening of the muscles
The rise in blood pressure
Low self-esteem
Becoming easily agitated or frustrated
Upset stomach
Headache
Low energy
Chest pain
Insomnia
Frequent colds and infection
Weak immune system

In this blog, you won't find any tools or techniques to get over someone. But here, we will learn some ways to enjoy the process of healing in a better way.

Ways to get over someone and heal yourself

Here are some of the practices one can follow that will help him move on in his life and do something better.

1. Accept your feelings- Just like we mourn over the death of someone, in the same way, we mourn when a friend or lover leaves our life. This mourning and grieving are not wrong. They were once with you and are now gone, so it's natural to miss them and think about them. It is reasonable to grieve the end of a relationship for some time. "Allow yourself to suffer. Get everything out of your system emotionally so you can move on. Have your breakdowns ready." Holding it in will cause the process of moving on to be slowed.

Related: 20 ways to practice self-love

Final Words

If you are a constant reader of my blog, you would be well aware of the times I have used the word "Gratitude" in my blog posts.

Even last year I wrote a complete post on the meaning and importance of the same.

We all know that "Gratitude" is simply the act of "Being Grateful."

Whenever someone does something for us, we always thank them for their gesture. This Thank You come from our state of being grateful.

But do you know that you can always stay in this state and reap its benefits?

Yes! Appreciating other people does not make them happy alone but it makes you happy too.

It makes you enlightened and top of the joy and you get free from all your worries and problems.

How to practice gratitude?

The state of being grateful cannot only be achieved when something happens in your favor but you can always be grateful irrespective of the event or situation.

The more aware you are of your blessings, the happier you become!

One can easily develop an "attitude of gratitude" by following these practices such as:

Writing about three or five things that you are grateful for every day.
Appreciating nature. For example trees, birds, planets, etc
Randomly telling someone that you are grateful to have them in your life.
Doing an act of kindness for others.
Focusing on the small things you have in your life.
Sending thanks to someone in your prayer.