The moment you wake up, you start surfing your social media to see what your friends or people whom you don't like in real life (but you are still following them over social media) have posted.

If someone is putting a story of them running or working out, your first thought in the morning would be- "They are getting fit and I am still fat or ugly"! 

And from that moment,  you curse or doubt yourself the whole day because you think that you are unable to do things that others are doing.

This was 1 side. 

The other side could be:

You hurry to get ready for work an hour before it begins. Before heading out the door, you shower quickly and grab an energy bar and a cup of coffee. The day has not even started yet and you feel exhausted and by the end of the week, you are all so drained up and burnt. This week again you couldn't reach your weekly goals and the cycle goes on and on...

So what is the exact way to set your life back on track? How can you set a morning routine that will give you an abundance of everything that you always wanted?

Here is the answer: HABITS

Habits create our day-to-day experiences and thus form our lifestyle. To change our lifestyle, we must change our habits.

Why are habits and routines important?

Here are 9 easy and tiny habits that will help set your morning routine:

 1.  Wake up at least 20 mins earlier than usual- You may have heard this phrase a thousand times that- "Early to bed, and early to rise; makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise!" But don't worry, you won't read the same story here again. 

If you are a night owl and it's hard for you to wake up early in the morning, set your alarm prior to 20 minutes than you usually get up. For instance, if you wake up around 10:00am, then set your alarm at 9:40am. In this way, you will start waking up early.

  2.  Be thankful for another day- The moment you get up, say Thank You to god. Be grateful for witnessing another day. Gratitude has the power to make you feel grounded and kind. Shift your focus towards all the things you have right now and be grateful for them.

 3.  Drink a glass of water- Drinking a warm glass of water in the morning is the quickest way to rehydrate yourself. Try drinking a glass of lemon water with honey as it is full of antioxidants which are good for your digestive system.

 4.  Make your bed- According to McCraven: “If you make your bed every morning you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride and it will encourage you to do another task"!

 5.  Set your morning intention- Setting an intention is different than setting a goal. It will depict how your day will be. Apart from eating, drinking, working, and doing all the other things, you have to create a mindset to do all of these chores. This would be possible by setting a morning intention.

 6.  Move your body for at least 5 mins- Exercising in the morning has many benefits. But if you are unable to work out in the morning, then do stretching or jumping for at least 5 minutes. Morning exercise improves blood flow, releases endorphins, and strengthens the muscle. It helps you get ready for the day ahead, raises your overall energy levels, and keeps you well.

7.  Have a proper breakfast- The food you consume in the morning puts a great impact on your overall day. People who eat a full bowl of breakfast in the morning are less likely to be obese and have stable blood sugar levels. 

8. Plan your day- After having your breakfast and doing all the above-mentioned things, it's time to plan your day. Making a habit of writing the goals for each day makes you more productive and helps in your decision-making power.

9. Stay positive- Finally, the most important habit that will remain with you for a lifetime is the habit of positive thinking.

Conclusion

 Do you often find yourself eating lots of snacks at midnight or even at work?

Watching Netflix and having popcorn is fine but when you eat just because you are bored is not!

People who have a habit of accessing food when stressed or bored are known as "emotional eaters." 

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Emotional eating or stress eating refers to running towards either something spicy or a desert to get comfort. Sometimes we are physically full, yet we crave to eat something and, this happens when we are emotionally struggling from something.

 After you satisfy your soul by eating a tub of snacks, you may feel guilty or ashamed of yourself and, as a result, you gain weight.

So, stress eating not only makes you overweight but also suggests that you have something going on in your mind.

Are you an Emotional Eater?

• Do you eat something spicy to reduce your anxiety?
• Do you feel great after having lots of food?
• Do you continue eating after your first burp?
• Do you think food is your friend as you always feel good after having something?
• Do you reward yourself with food after achieving something?

What causes the Emotional Eating Cycle?

Whenever you have any food cravings, you immediately rush to cool it down. But do you know why this happens? Why you have the sudden urge to eat everything?

I often find myself craving something spicy to beat my stress, anxiety, and tension. While others may feel relief having a desert full of sugar and sweet. Everyone is a different type of stress eater. While occasionally picking a snack to eliminate boredom is fine. However, when stress eating becomes your habit, it can cause you more health problems.

This emotional eating cycle starts from your feeling of sadness and, you have this urge to eat something for self-satisfaction but, you end up feeling guilty or ashamed of over-eating.

 

Strategies to Manage Stress Eating 

You can stop being a stress-eater and change your lifestyle into a healthy and positive one by using these simple strategies. They are:

1.  Identify the cause behind emotional eating-

As soon as you find yourself craving for a specific type of food or snack, take a pause and find the root of this situation. Ask yourself- Why do I want to eat this food only? Check if something is bothering you? Are you stressed, worried, facing anxiety? Reflect and think if you are actually hungry or you only need food to calm your negative emotions. 

When you identify your eating habits and become aware, you will start ignoring the unhealthy food and shift towards healthy ones.

2. Shift to the right over comfort-

Before you reach a tub of ice cream or start opening packets of nachos, take a moment and wonder if this is what you want? Consuming junk once in a while is fine, but when you include it in your lifestyle, it causes obesity and other health problems.

Instead of loading yourself with unnecessary carbs and fats, switch towards those food groups that are enriched in vitamins and minerals and also boost our immunity. Such as chickpeas, raw seeds, fruits & vegetables, fish, chicken, etc.

3. Water is a problem-solution-

Keeping yourself hydrated throughout the day is another way of staying far away from stress-eating. Have you ever wondered your mood is off but without any specific reason? Well, this happens when we are not hydrated enough. 

Water is the solution to almost 70% of problems. Be it skin, hair, or any other internal problem, water is the solution for every difficulty. 

If you are bored of drinking plain water, why not add different ingredients to it to make it tasty? You can always go for herbal teas, smoothies, and lemon water to make your drinking habit fun and enjoyable.

4. Deal with your emotions-

Usually, we don't like sitting with our feelings and addressing them. So to avoid being in a negative state, we replace them with emotional eating. 

Dealing with your emotions can be scary, but you can achieve a peaceful state of mind with a guided meditation or breathing technique. You can also find some relaxation techniques that can help you cope up and face the emotions you are going through. 

You can also read this article, this can guide you to remain calm even with a busy schedule.

5. Follow a healthy lifestyle- 

It's easy for someone to grab some snacks out of their kitchen when they have already filled up their home with junk food. In some cases, when people can't resist eating something, they even order online. So to prevent yourself from overeating anything wrong, you should start following a healthy lifestyle. A healthy diet will not allow you to pick up junk when stressed but something healthy.

Usually, people think a healthy lifestyle is hard to maintain because they only have to eat healthy options throughout their life. But when you stock your kitchen with filling foods like whole-grain pasta, whole grain bread, oats, fruits, and other healthy items, you will not binge into unhealthy food items.

6. Distract yourself-

The best way to stop eating unhealthy is by focusing on other things.

The moment you find yourself craving something specific, tap onto other things that can make you feel relaxed and calm.

Distracting yourself on things like listening to music, going for a walk, and even drinking a big glass of water can stop you from eating emotionally.

Final Words

Have you ever felt like a victim? Do you self-pity all the time? 

Do you think the whole world is against you and no one seems to care about you?

Well if you do so or if you know someone who always thinks he is helpless and powerless then it may be because of victim mentality.

Who is a victim?

A victim is someone who has been robbed, attacked, humiliated, tortured physically. But when someone intentionally tries to divert the situation around himself, we might say, "He is playing a victim card!" Why? Because we can easily understand that nothing has happened to him or nobody tortured him, still he is self-pitying himself for no reason.

In general, we all are victims. At one point or other, we all have felt helpless. While some of us ditched our helplessness and stood firm but others couldn't leave their victim mindset. 

Signs of a victim mentality

Not everyone purposely plays a sympathy card, sometimes they don't know how to overcome a situation that leads to them being a victim. To know if you have a victim mindset or not, you must read the signs below:

• You feel everyone is against you.
• You accept your situation as it is.
• You don't do anything to come out of the unwanted situation.
• You blame others for your loss.
• You react annoyingly to negative feedback and criticism.
• You feel good when someone pity you.
• You constantly indulge in pessimistic self-talk and self-pity.
• You try to take sympathy from others.

How to ditch the victim mentality

1.  Be willing to change the situation

2. Stay away from negative people

3. Practice Forgiveness

4. Take a break

5. Empower yourself with positive self-affirmations

Final Words

 When you are indulged in pursuing your career goals, or fitness goals, or home duties, sometimes you forget who you are! While the sense of accomplishment you get feels good but it's important to focus on your mental health too.

The moment you wake up, you start calculating your day's duties and responsibilities without even being grateful for the same day. It's not that you are a selfish and ungrateful person, but amidst everything going on in your life, how many times have you taken care of yourself?

Do you take time out of your busy schedule to do a head massage? or How many times do you visit the salon for a hair spa?

Giving yourself a mental break is as necessary as meeting your deadlines. People, in general, believe that if they won't do as much hard work as others do, they might lag behind.

But you need to ensure that your competition is not with anyone else, but with yourself. So you need to take timely breaks to recharge and reset yourself.

Here are 8 healthy ways to give yourself a mental break so you won't stress out:

1.Prioritize restful activities- What are restful activities? A downtime or a restful activity is that which provides you comfort and relaxation. Which activity do you like to enjoy the most? 

Be it going outside to take a walk, or binging onto your favorite show, or dancing to a piece of good music whatever it is that makes you happy and that provides a break to your brain should be your priority. You should know that prioritizing these activities won't cost you enough money or your job. 

   2. Sleep More- We have always been listening to this phrase that a good sleep comprises of 7-8 hours and we must sleep for this affixed amount of time. Some finish their work as early as possible and sleep peacefully at night while others find it difficult to sleep.

If you also cannot sleep adequately at night, you can take a small nap in the daytime. If you have something important to finish and you are sitting in front of your laptop since morning, it's okay to set your work aside and take a small nap break to reset yourself. Sometimes you may wonder- "I should complete my work first, then I will do some other thing." While it's good that you are serious about your work, but continuously sitting and doing work will make you fatigued which can impact the quality of your work.

 3. Feed yourself with positivity- There are many days when we don't have any actual reason to be sad or worried but still we are stressed. Does this happen to you also? A possible reason behind unknown sadness can be some negative thoughts/phrases/news/quotes/films or anything related to that. 

4. Set aside all the financial worries- For one day, try to NOT think about your expenses, money that you owe to someone, financial bills, etc. Understand that worrying about your expenses won't going to sort it out or make you poor. So why trouble yourself by thinking about financial issues?

5. Stop multitasking- A study conducted at Stanford University stated how multitasking causes us stress and anxiety. We mostly do 3-4 tasks at once in order to finish them as quickly as possible. But we don't realize that when we are bombarded with several tasks at once, we lose our focus, memory, and productivity.

6. Release and burn your emotions- On a daily basis, we carry a lot with us, betrayals, failures, family problems, relationship issues, money, health, career, and what not! Every time when we solve one issue, the other stands in front of us causing our mind to work non-stop. Though already our brain is in the process of creating thoughts. However, when any unwanted situation stands up, we become negative.

To relax and reset our mental power, we need to release those emotions and burn them. 

How can we do so? Here is a 3-step-guide for you:

• Sit down comfortably and grab a pen and paper.
• Start writing down whatever is coming into your mind. All those negative thoughts, criticism, someone made you feel low, whatever is coming in your head, jot it down.
• Then stand up, get a matchstick, and burn that paper. Understand that it is normal and watch the paper is burning along with your negative sentiments.

Try it out once and you would feel relaxed, calm, and better by burning that paper. 

7. Switch off gadgets- Usually, adults spend most of their time on phones and other tech gadgets. Everywhere you go, you would find people either scrolling their news feed or capturing the best shot. Social media and technology have made our life easier but it has also impacted our health. We tend to compare ourselves with people, might watch disturbing news that affects our entire day, and much more.

8. Take mini-breaks- Doing small acts for your personal well-being is never a bad idea. You should know when to shut off the work and spend time by yourself. Schedule your work timings and break timings. This way your mind will not get tired and you will also increase your productivity level.

Final Words

 In our life, we all have been to a point where everything went wrong, nothing worked in our favor and then we got sad and frustrated.

We try to control the situation, hold our emotions in front of our family, and cry out loud by soaking our face against the pillow.

I know this feeling is terrible when we feel like- "I am Worthless!", "I am a burden to my family!"

At that moment we only want peace! Peace inside our heart, mind, and everywhere around us.

When we are hit back by a sudden change or a negative situation that is not in our control, we are often surrounded by negative emotions.

I would say it's okay to feel worthless at some point- because only then you would be able to recognize your true self.

However, continuously repeating negative self-talk and feeling bad about yourself will lead you to more negative situations. 

Let's think of what you can do when you are feeling low, sad, and worthless.

Here are the top 07 things to remember whenever you feel worthless:

1. This feeling is temporary-

2. Think of something positive-

3. You are perfect in your way-

4. Find your purpose- 

5. Start moving-

6. Start writing what you feel-

Final Thoughts

 The new year is here- which definitely means new resolutions!

Although nothing exactly changes with a new year. But most of us take a pledge with ourselves that -"This time I won't let people hurt me nor I would beg someone to love me."

However, with time some of us forget all our resolutions and start acting the same way we used to act the previous year.

Same disappointments with different people!

Have you ever thought about why someone else's behavior bothers you so much that your mental peace gets upside down?

Think of yourself in a light and happy mood and suddenly you meet someone or talk to someone who instantly puts you in a low vibration mode. This person can be anyone from your family, work, social group, or your spouse.

There are other cases also where we get hurt by our own people. Maybe their intention was not to hurt us or perhaps if someone to whom we are attached does something which we didn't expect them to do, we immediately react and think vigorously.

How to not let others affect you?

To remain unaffected by our surroundings is difficult but possible. We only have to take a step back and detach ourselves from it emotionally.

Here are 6 tips that can guide us to remain positive and unbothered by people's behavior:

1. Set your boundaries- If you want to save yourself from getting into the low vibrational mode, you just need to set boundaries for yourself.

According to Positive Psychology: A healthy boundary is a space between you and the other person which is drawn to ensure that your mental health remains stable. Boundaries determine what you will tolerate and what you will not!

Boundaries are your space which the other person must not cross.

How to Create Healthy Boundaries?

• If you don't like something say it clearly on the face of another person. For example, if someone asks you to do something which you think is crossing the limits of your particular relationship, simply say "NO". No need to over-explain everything.
• Be honest about your feelings. Do not care about what the other person would think. It is necessary to have honest conversations then telling lies.
• Make yourself a priority. If you have told everyone to whom you are close to and they still do not respect your boundaries, choose to walk away. 

2. Allow yourself to respond- When you witness the opposite of what you want, you have a choice- either to react immediately or to stay calm and let your brain respond after a few minutes.

Yes, we behave according to the actions of others. For instance, a teacher will get angry when he is teaching and a student is creating a disturbance in class. In that case, the teacher can give that student punishment, or perhaps he can calmly handle the situation and guide the child.

How to calmly handle things?

• Start deep breathing and don't overthink everything.
• Keep quiet and try to understand them.
• Start repeating Positive Self-Affirmations to yourself.

3. Move out of the past- Holding on to a grudge will only give you emotional harm and nothing else. If you are holding a grudge against someone then it's you who is being suffered. The other person won't even know and don't care about your feelings and emotions. They are happily enjoying their lives. 

4. Take responsibility for your emotions- You create your own reality and thoughts. Hence you are solely responsible for how you feel. Even if others do wrong with you, it's up to you how you will take it. You cannot rely on people to give you the reality that you desire. 

5. Realize that you cannot control them- You can control your own state of mind but not of others. How others behave, what others do is not what you should worry about. You must understand that you cannot force others to behave according to you. 

Would you like behaving on someone else's terms and conditions? No, right? In the same way, the action of another person is based on their karma and beliefs.

6. Your happiness is inside you- When you will start looking internally and not externally you'll have more patience and calmness. If any sudden setback would arise you will be able to handle it with patience and not get upset. That's the power of our inner state of mind.

Final Thoughts

Picking yourself up after failures can be tough. I know because I have been through it. 

No human in this world is 100% happy or living his best life. We all have low moments, sudden mishappenings, and lose our way. 

Some of us find our way back and go over the moon while some of us take time to get back on track. In life's journey, we may feel lonely, depressed, or even drop our confidence.

 Building confidence is a much easier task than rebuilding it. Because when you don't know anything, suppose you don't know how to drive a car, you will practice it and eventually learn it and have confidence over your driving skills.

On the other hand, rebuilding that confidence again what you have already tried or you already know can be difficult.

And that is why we are here to:-  

Rebuild our confidence when failures hit us

1. Take a break- Taking a break is a good option to de-stress your mind after unexpected setbacks or failures. Failures are meant to give you lessons or make you learn something which you would never learn if you would still be doing the same thing.

Or if you are pushing or beating yourself up and taking the entire burden on yourself about a current situation, then it's of no use. Taking the blame is not beneficial, not even for the short-term.

So, if you are struggling with unemployment or boredom after a sudden mishappening, try indulging in some other activity and shift your focus into something else. 

2. Embrace past victories- Remember the last time your dream job landed in your lap? That promotion you received without even putting many efforts! Reminiscing the past victories allows us to be more open to future opportunities. They allow us to think broader and better.

You might be aware that J.K Rowling received many rejections before publishing the Harry Potter Book. She dragged herself from severe poverty and became the first billionaire to enter into the name of Forbes. 

Even after several setbacks and facing rejections she didn't sit back and did not have negative self-talk instead, she worked hard to make her dream turn into reality.

3. Do some Voluntary act- If you are free right now and looking for your dream job, try volunteering in the same field or whatever you like. You will get the same sense of deadlines, schedules, and dependency on people that you would get in a paid job. Moreover, it will give you a new feel of experience and confidence and you might become more informative about the current trends in the industry.

4. Find a meaning- It's completely our choice as to how we deal with a particular situation. If you are hit back with a failure in your life, then it's up to you if you will consider it as a loss or a lesson. Sometimes, the biggest breakthroughs come in our life after major breakdowns. 

Re-building your confidence consists of giving meaning to the current situation or circumstance. Now that's what most of us fail to do so. We generally label a sudden mishappening as a "failure" or a "loss". Why? because that's how our brain works. Our brain immediately picks up an unwanted outcome or thing and consider it as negative without even realizing the actual purpose of it.

Start looking at your unwanted situation as a guide on how it is helping you or how it will take you to your desired destination. Give it an empowering meaning!

5.  Don't resist the change- Resisting and holding on to things will not take you anywhere. When what you want is going away from you, you hold it tight and prevent it from running away. I know it's difficult to let go of what you want as it gives you happiness and joy. However, if you will change your mindset and start accepting the situations and things as it is, you will find that you are in the best place in your life.

Let's say, you just lost your job or didn't do well in your exams and because of that, you have lost all your confidence. So rather than worrying and wanting those things back accept that situation and see what it is conveying to you as you will find the courage and confidence to move on in life.

6. Stand up on your own- Start taking baby steps and start moving forward. No matter how powerless you feel, you have to stand on your own to achieve your goals. Nobody is going to come and save you. 

Final words before goodbye

 The moment you wake up, you start surfing your social media to see what your friends or people whom you don't like in real life (but you are still following them over social media) have posted.

If someone is putting a story of them running or working out, your first thought in the morning would be- "They are getting fit and I am still fat or ugly"! 

And from that moment,  you curse or doubt yourself the whole day because you think that you are unable to do things that others are doing.

This was 1 side. 

The other side could be:

You hurry to get ready for work an hour before it begins. Before heading out the door, you shower quickly and grab an energy bar and a cup of coffee. The day has not even started yet and you feel exhausted and by the end of the week, you are all so drained up and burnt. This week again you couldn't reach your weekly goals and the cycle goes on and on...

So what is the exact way to set your life back on track? How can you set a morning routine that will give you an abundance of everything that you always wanted?

Here is the answer: HABITS

Habits create our day-to-day experiences and thus form our lifestyle. To change our lifestyle, we must change our habits.

Why are habits and routines important?

Here are 9 easy and tiny habits that will help set your morning routine:

 1.  Wake up at least 20 mins earlier than usual- You may have heard this phrase a thousand times that- "Early to bed, and early to rise; makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise!" But don't worry, you won't read the same story here again. 

If you are a night owl and it's hard for you to wake up early in the morning, set your alarm prior to 20 minutes than you usually get up. For instance, if you wake up around 10:00am, then set your alarm at 9:40am. In this way, you will start waking up early.

  2.  Be thankful for another day- The moment you get up, say Thank You to god. Be grateful for witnessing another day. Gratitude has the power to make you feel grounded and kind. Shift your focus towards all the things you have right now and be grateful for them.

 3.  Drink a glass of water- Drinking a warm glass of water in the morning is the quickest way to rehydrate yourself. Try drinking a glass of lemon water with honey as it is full of antioxidants which are good for your digestive system.

 4.  Make your bed- According to McCraven: “If you make your bed every morning you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride and it will encourage you to do another task"!

 5.  Set your morning intention- Setting an intention is different than setting a goal. It will depict how your day will be. Apart from eating, drinking, working, and doing all the other things, you have to create a mindset to do all of these chores. This would be possible by setting a morning intention.

 6.  Move your body for at least 5 mins- Exercising in the morning has many benefits. But if you are unable to work out in the morning, then do stretching or jumping for at least 5 minutes. Morning exercise improves blood flow, releases endorphins, and strengthens the muscle. It helps you get ready for the day ahead, raises your overall energy levels, and keeps you well.

7.  Have a proper breakfast- The food you consume in the morning puts a great impact on your overall day. People who eat a full bowl of breakfast in the morning are less likely to be obese and have stable blood sugar levels. 

8. Plan your day- After having your breakfast and doing all the above-mentioned things, it's time to plan your day. Making a habit of writing the goals for each day makes you more productive and helps in your decision-making power.

9. Stay positive- Finally, the most important habit that will remain with you for a lifetime is the habit of positive thinking.

Conclusion

 Do you often find yourself eating lots of snacks at midnight or even at work?

Watching Netflix and having popcorn is fine but when you eat just because you are bored is not!

People who have a habit of accessing food when stressed or bored are known as "emotional eaters." 

source: freepik

Emotional eating or stress eating refers to running towards either something spicy or a desert to get comfort. Sometimes we are physically full, yet we crave to eat something and, this happens when we are emotionally struggling from something.

 After you satisfy your soul by eating a tub of snacks, you may feel guilty or ashamed of yourself and, as a result, you gain weight.

So, stress eating not only makes you overweight but also suggests that you have something going on in your mind.

Are you an Emotional Eater?

• Do you eat something spicy to reduce your anxiety?
• Do you feel great after having lots of food?
• Do you continue eating after your first burp?
• Do you think food is your friend as you always feel good after having something?
• Do you reward yourself with food after achieving something?

What causes the Emotional Eating Cycle?

Whenever you have any food cravings, you immediately rush to cool it down. But do you know why this happens? Why you have the sudden urge to eat everything?

I often find myself craving something spicy to beat my stress, anxiety, and tension. While others may feel relief having a desert full of sugar and sweet. Everyone is a different type of stress eater. While occasionally picking a snack to eliminate boredom is fine. However, when stress eating becomes your habit, it can cause you more health problems.

This emotional eating cycle starts from your feeling of sadness and, you have this urge to eat something for self-satisfaction but, you end up feeling guilty or ashamed of over-eating.

 

Strategies to Manage Stress Eating 

You can stop being a stress-eater and change your lifestyle into a healthy and positive one by using these simple strategies. They are:

1.  Identify the cause behind emotional eating-

As soon as you find yourself craving for a specific type of food or snack, take a pause and find the root of this situation. Ask yourself- Why do I want to eat this food only? Check if something is bothering you? Are you stressed, worried, facing anxiety? Reflect and think if you are actually hungry or you only need food to calm your negative emotions. 

When you identify your eating habits and become aware, you will start ignoring the unhealthy food and shift towards healthy ones.

2. Shift to the right over comfort-

Before you reach a tub of ice cream or start opening packets of nachos, take a moment and wonder if this is what you want? Consuming junk once in a while is fine, but when you include it in your lifestyle, it causes obesity and other health problems.

Instead of loading yourself with unnecessary carbs and fats, switch towards those food groups that are enriched in vitamins and minerals and also boost our immunity. Such as chickpeas, raw seeds, fruits & vegetables, fish, chicken, etc.

3. Water is a problem-solution-

Keeping yourself hydrated throughout the day is another way of staying far away from stress-eating. Have you ever wondered your mood is off but without any specific reason? Well, this happens when we are not hydrated enough. 

Water is the solution to almost 70% of problems. Be it skin, hair, or any other internal problem, water is the solution for every difficulty. 

If you are bored of drinking plain water, why not add different ingredients to it to make it tasty? You can always go for herbal teas, smoothies, and lemon water to make your drinking habit fun and enjoyable.

4. Deal with your emotions-

Usually, we don't like sitting with our feelings and addressing them. So to avoid being in a negative state, we replace them with emotional eating. 

Dealing with your emotions can be scary, but you can achieve a peaceful state of mind with a guided meditation or breathing technique. You can also find some relaxation techniques that can help you cope up and face the emotions you are going through. 

You can also read this article, this can guide you to remain calm even with a busy schedule.

5. Follow a healthy lifestyle- 

It's easy for someone to grab some snacks out of their kitchen when they have already filled up their home with junk food. In some cases, when people can't resist eating something, they even order online. So to prevent yourself from overeating anything wrong, you should start following a healthy lifestyle. A healthy diet will not allow you to pick up junk when stressed but something healthy.

Usually, people think a healthy lifestyle is hard to maintain because they only have to eat healthy options throughout their life. But when you stock your kitchen with filling foods like whole-grain pasta, whole grain bread, oats, fruits, and other healthy items, you will not binge into unhealthy food items.

6. Distract yourself-

The best way to stop eating unhealthy is by focusing on other things.

The moment you find yourself craving something specific, tap onto other things that can make you feel relaxed and calm.

Distracting yourself on things like listening to music, going for a walk, and even drinking a big glass of water can stop you from eating emotionally.

Final Words

Have you ever felt like a victim? Do you self-pity all the time? 

Do you think the whole world is against you and no one seems to care about you?

Well if you do so or if you know someone who always thinks he is helpless and powerless then it may be because of victim mentality.

Who is a victim?

A victim is someone who has been robbed, attacked, humiliated, tortured physically. But when someone intentionally tries to divert the situation around himself, we might say, "He is playing a victim card!" Why? Because we can easily understand that nothing has happened to him or nobody tortured him, still he is self-pitying himself for no reason.

In general, we all are victims. At one point or other, we all have felt helpless. While some of us ditched our helplessness and stood firm but others couldn't leave their victim mindset. 

Signs of a victim mentality

Not everyone purposely plays a sympathy card, sometimes they don't know how to overcome a situation that leads to them being a victim. To know if you have a victim mindset or not, you must read the signs below:

• You feel everyone is against you.
• You accept your situation as it is.
• You don't do anything to come out of the unwanted situation.
• You blame others for your loss.
• You react annoyingly to negative feedback and criticism.
• You feel good when someone pity you.
• You constantly indulge in pessimistic self-talk and self-pity.
• You try to take sympathy from others.

How to ditch the victim mentality

1.  Be willing to change the situation

2. Stay away from negative people

3. Practice Forgiveness

4. Take a break

5. Empower yourself with positive self-affirmations

Final Words

 When you are indulged in pursuing your career goals, or fitness goals, or home duties, sometimes you forget who you are! While the sense of accomplishment you get feels good but it's important to focus on your mental health too.

The moment you wake up, you start calculating your day's duties and responsibilities without even being grateful for the same day. It's not that you are a selfish and ungrateful person, but amidst everything going on in your life, how many times have you taken care of yourself?

Do you take time out of your busy schedule to do a head massage? or How many times do you visit the salon for a hair spa?

Giving yourself a mental break is as necessary as meeting your deadlines. People, in general, believe that if they won't do as much hard work as others do, they might lag behind.

But you need to ensure that your competition is not with anyone else, but with yourself. So you need to take timely breaks to recharge and reset yourself.

Here are 8 healthy ways to give yourself a mental break so you won't stress out:

1.Prioritize restful activities- What are restful activities? A downtime or a restful activity is that which provides you comfort and relaxation. Which activity do you like to enjoy the most? 

Be it going outside to take a walk, or binging onto your favorite show, or dancing to a piece of good music whatever it is that makes you happy and that provides a break to your brain should be your priority. You should know that prioritizing these activities won't cost you enough money or your job. 

   2. Sleep More- We have always been listening to this phrase that a good sleep comprises of 7-8 hours and we must sleep for this affixed amount of time. Some finish their work as early as possible and sleep peacefully at night while others find it difficult to sleep.

If you also cannot sleep adequately at night, you can take a small nap in the daytime. If you have something important to finish and you are sitting in front of your laptop since morning, it's okay to set your work aside and take a small nap break to reset yourself. Sometimes you may wonder- "I should complete my work first, then I will do some other thing." While it's good that you are serious about your work, but continuously sitting and doing work will make you fatigued which can impact the quality of your work.

 3. Feed yourself with positivity- There are many days when we don't have any actual reason to be sad or worried but still we are stressed. Does this happen to you also? A possible reason behind unknown sadness can be some negative thoughts/phrases/news/quotes/films or anything related to that. 

4. Set aside all the financial worries- For one day, try to NOT think about your expenses, money that you owe to someone, financial bills, etc. Understand that worrying about your expenses won't going to sort it out or make you poor. So why trouble yourself by thinking about financial issues?

5. Stop multitasking- A study conducted at Stanford University stated how multitasking causes us stress and anxiety. We mostly do 3-4 tasks at once in order to finish them as quickly as possible. But we don't realize that when we are bombarded with several tasks at once, we lose our focus, memory, and productivity.

6. Release and burn your emotions- On a daily basis, we carry a lot with us, betrayals, failures, family problems, relationship issues, money, health, career, and what not! Every time when we solve one issue, the other stands in front of us causing our mind to work non-stop. Though already our brain is in the process of creating thoughts. However, when any unwanted situation stands up, we become negative.

To relax and reset our mental power, we need to release those emotions and burn them. 

How can we do so? Here is a 3-step-guide for you:

• Sit down comfortably and grab a pen and paper.
• Start writing down whatever is coming into your mind. All those negative thoughts, criticism, someone made you feel low, whatever is coming in your head, jot it down.
• Then stand up, get a matchstick, and burn that paper. Understand that it is normal and watch the paper is burning along with your negative sentiments.

Try it out once and you would feel relaxed, calm, and better by burning that paper. 

7. Switch off gadgets- Usually, adults spend most of their time on phones and other tech gadgets. Everywhere you go, you would find people either scrolling their news feed or capturing the best shot. Social media and technology have made our life easier but it has also impacted our health. We tend to compare ourselves with people, might watch disturbing news that affects our entire day, and much more.

8. Take mini-breaks- Doing small acts for your personal well-being is never a bad idea. You should know when to shut off the work and spend time by yourself. Schedule your work timings and break timings. This way your mind will not get tired and you will also increase your productivity level.

Final Words

 In our life, we all have been to a point where everything went wrong, nothing worked in our favor and then we got sad and frustrated.

We try to control the situation, hold our emotions in front of our family, and cry out loud by soaking our face against the pillow.

I know this feeling is terrible when we feel like- "I am Worthless!", "I am a burden to my family!"

At that moment we only want peace! Peace inside our heart, mind, and everywhere around us.

When we are hit back by a sudden change or a negative situation that is not in our control, we are often surrounded by negative emotions.

I would say it's okay to feel worthless at some point- because only then you would be able to recognize your true self.

However, continuously repeating negative self-talk and feeling bad about yourself will lead you to more negative situations. 

Let's think of what you can do when you are feeling low, sad, and worthless.

Here are the top 07 things to remember whenever you feel worthless:

1. This feeling is temporary-

2. Think of something positive-

3. You are perfect in your way-

4. Find your purpose- 

5. Start moving-

6. Start writing what you feel-

Final Thoughts

 The new year is here- which definitely means new resolutions!

Although nothing exactly changes with a new year. But most of us take a pledge with ourselves that -"This time I won't let people hurt me nor I would beg someone to love me."

However, with time some of us forget all our resolutions and start acting the same way we used to act the previous year.

Same disappointments with different people!

Have you ever thought about why someone else's behavior bothers you so much that your mental peace gets upside down?

Think of yourself in a light and happy mood and suddenly you meet someone or talk to someone who instantly puts you in a low vibration mode. This person can be anyone from your family, work, social group, or your spouse.

There are other cases also where we get hurt by our own people. Maybe their intention was not to hurt us or perhaps if someone to whom we are attached does something which we didn't expect them to do, we immediately react and think vigorously.

How to not let others affect you?

To remain unaffected by our surroundings is difficult but possible. We only have to take a step back and detach ourselves from it emotionally.

Here are 6 tips that can guide us to remain positive and unbothered by people's behavior:

1. Set your boundaries- If you want to save yourself from getting into the low vibrational mode, you just need to set boundaries for yourself.

According to Positive Psychology: A healthy boundary is a space between you and the other person which is drawn to ensure that your mental health remains stable. Boundaries determine what you will tolerate and what you will not!

Boundaries are your space which the other person must not cross.

How to Create Healthy Boundaries?

• If you don't like something say it clearly on the face of another person. For example, if someone asks you to do something which you think is crossing the limits of your particular relationship, simply say "NO". No need to over-explain everything.
• Be honest about your feelings. Do not care about what the other person would think. It is necessary to have honest conversations then telling lies.
• Make yourself a priority. If you have told everyone to whom you are close to and they still do not respect your boundaries, choose to walk away. 

2. Allow yourself to respond- When you witness the opposite of what you want, you have a choice- either to react immediately or to stay calm and let your brain respond after a few minutes.

Yes, we behave according to the actions of others. For instance, a teacher will get angry when he is teaching and a student is creating a disturbance in class. In that case, the teacher can give that student punishment, or perhaps he can calmly handle the situation and guide the child.

How to calmly handle things?

• Start deep breathing and don't overthink everything.
• Keep quiet and try to understand them.
• Start repeating Positive Self-Affirmations to yourself.

3. Move out of the past- Holding on to a grudge will only give you emotional harm and nothing else. If you are holding a grudge against someone then it's you who is being suffered. The other person won't even know and don't care about your feelings and emotions. They are happily enjoying their lives. 

4. Take responsibility for your emotions- You create your own reality and thoughts. Hence you are solely responsible for how you feel. Even if others do wrong with you, it's up to you how you will take it. You cannot rely on people to give you the reality that you desire. 

5. Realize that you cannot control them- You can control your own state of mind but not of others. How others behave, what others do is not what you should worry about. You must understand that you cannot force others to behave according to you. 

Would you like behaving on someone else's terms and conditions? No, right? In the same way, the action of another person is based on their karma and beliefs.

6. Your happiness is inside you- When you will start looking internally and not externally you'll have more patience and calmness. If any sudden setback would arise you will be able to handle it with patience and not get upset. That's the power of our inner state of mind.

Final Thoughts

Picking yourself up after failures can be tough. I know because I have been through it. 

No human in this world is 100% happy or living his best life. We all have low moments, sudden mishappenings, and lose our way. 

Some of us find our way back and go over the moon while some of us take time to get back on track. In life's journey, we may feel lonely, depressed, or even drop our confidence.

 Building confidence is a much easier task than rebuilding it. Because when you don't know anything, suppose you don't know how to drive a car, you will practice it and eventually learn it and have confidence over your driving skills.

On the other hand, rebuilding that confidence again what you have already tried or you already know can be difficult.

And that is why we are here to:-  

Rebuild our confidence when failures hit us

1. Take a break- Taking a break is a good option to de-stress your mind after unexpected setbacks or failures. Failures are meant to give you lessons or make you learn something which you would never learn if you would still be doing the same thing.

Or if you are pushing or beating yourself up and taking the entire burden on yourself about a current situation, then it's of no use. Taking the blame is not beneficial, not even for the short-term.

So, if you are struggling with unemployment or boredom after a sudden mishappening, try indulging in some other activity and shift your focus into something else. 

2. Embrace past victories- Remember the last time your dream job landed in your lap? That promotion you received without even putting many efforts! Reminiscing the past victories allows us to be more open to future opportunities. They allow us to think broader and better.

You might be aware that J.K Rowling received many rejections before publishing the Harry Potter Book. She dragged herself from severe poverty and became the first billionaire to enter into the name of Forbes. 

Even after several setbacks and facing rejections she didn't sit back and did not have negative self-talk instead, she worked hard to make her dream turn into reality.

3. Do some Voluntary act- If you are free right now and looking for your dream job, try volunteering in the same field or whatever you like. You will get the same sense of deadlines, schedules, and dependency on people that you would get in a paid job. Moreover, it will give you a new feel of experience and confidence and you might become more informative about the current trends in the industry.

4. Find a meaning- It's completely our choice as to how we deal with a particular situation. If you are hit back with a failure in your life, then it's up to you if you will consider it as a loss or a lesson. Sometimes, the biggest breakthroughs come in our life after major breakdowns. 

Re-building your confidence consists of giving meaning to the current situation or circumstance. Now that's what most of us fail to do so. We generally label a sudden mishappening as a "failure" or a "loss". Why? because that's how our brain works. Our brain immediately picks up an unwanted outcome or thing and consider it as negative without even realizing the actual purpose of it.

Start looking at your unwanted situation as a guide on how it is helping you or how it will take you to your desired destination. Give it an empowering meaning!

5.  Don't resist the change- Resisting and holding on to things will not take you anywhere. When what you want is going away from you, you hold it tight and prevent it from running away. I know it's difficult to let go of what you want as it gives you happiness and joy. However, if you will change your mindset and start accepting the situations and things as it is, you will find that you are in the best place in your life.

Let's say, you just lost your job or didn't do well in your exams and because of that, you have lost all your confidence. So rather than worrying and wanting those things back accept that situation and see what it is conveying to you as you will find the courage and confidence to move on in life.

6. Stand up on your own- Start taking baby steps and start moving forward. No matter how powerless you feel, you have to stand on your own to achieve your goals. Nobody is going to come and save you. 

Final words before goodbye

 The moment you wake up, you start surfing your social media to see what your friends or people whom you don't like in real life (but you are still following them over social media) have posted.

If someone is putting a story of them running or working out, your first thought in the morning would be- "They are getting fit and I am still fat or ugly"! 

And from that moment,  you curse or doubt yourself the whole day because you think that you are unable to do things that others are doing.

This was 1 side. 

The other side could be:

You hurry to get ready for work an hour before it begins. Before heading out the door, you shower quickly and grab an energy bar and a cup of coffee. The day has not even started yet and you feel exhausted and by the end of the week, you are all so drained up and burnt. This week again you couldn't reach your weekly goals and the cycle goes on and on...

So what is the exact way to set your life back on track? How can you set a morning routine that will give you an abundance of everything that you always wanted?

Here is the answer: HABITS

Habits create our day-to-day experiences and thus form our lifestyle. To change our lifestyle, we must change our habits.

Why are habits and routines important?

Here are 9 easy and tiny habits that will help set your morning routine:

 1.  Wake up at least 20 mins earlier than usual- You may have heard this phrase a thousand times that- "Early to bed, and early to rise; makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise!" But don't worry, you won't read the same story here again. 

If you are a night owl and it's hard for you to wake up early in the morning, set your alarm prior to 20 minutes than you usually get up. For instance, if you wake up around 10:00am, then set your alarm at 9:40am. In this way, you will start waking up early.

  2.  Be thankful for another day- The moment you get up, say Thank You to god. Be grateful for witnessing another day. Gratitude has the power to make you feel grounded and kind. Shift your focus towards all the things you have right now and be grateful for them.

 3.  Drink a glass of water- Drinking a warm glass of water in the morning is the quickest way to rehydrate yourself. Try drinking a glass of lemon water with honey as it is full of antioxidants which are good for your digestive system.

 4.  Make your bed- According to McCraven: “If you make your bed every morning you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride and it will encourage you to do another task"!

 5.  Set your morning intention- Setting an intention is different than setting a goal. It will depict how your day will be. Apart from eating, drinking, working, and doing all the other things, you have to create a mindset to do all of these chores. This would be possible by setting a morning intention.

 6.  Move your body for at least 5 mins- Exercising in the morning has many benefits. But if you are unable to work out in the morning, then do stretching or jumping for at least 5 minutes. Morning exercise improves blood flow, releases endorphins, and strengthens the muscle. It helps you get ready for the day ahead, raises your overall energy levels, and keeps you well.

7.  Have a proper breakfast- The food you consume in the morning puts a great impact on your overall day. People who eat a full bowl of breakfast in the morning are less likely to be obese and have stable blood sugar levels. 

8. Plan your day- After having your breakfast and doing all the above-mentioned things, it's time to plan your day. Making a habit of writing the goals for each day makes you more productive and helps in your decision-making power.

9. Stay positive- Finally, the most important habit that will remain with you for a lifetime is the habit of positive thinking.

Conclusion

 Do you often find yourself eating lots of snacks at midnight or even at work?

Watching Netflix and having popcorn is fine but when you eat just because you are bored is not!

People who have a habit of accessing food when stressed or bored are known as "emotional eaters." 

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Emotional eating or stress eating refers to running towards either something spicy or a desert to get comfort. Sometimes we are physically full, yet we crave to eat something and, this happens when we are emotionally struggling from something.

 After you satisfy your soul by eating a tub of snacks, you may feel guilty or ashamed of yourself and, as a result, you gain weight.

So, stress eating not only makes you overweight but also suggests that you have something going on in your mind.

Are you an Emotional Eater?

• Do you eat something spicy to reduce your anxiety?
• Do you feel great after having lots of food?
• Do you continue eating after your first burp?
• Do you think food is your friend as you always feel good after having something?
• Do you reward yourself with food after achieving something?

What causes the Emotional Eating Cycle?

Whenever you have any food cravings, you immediately rush to cool it down. But do you know why this happens? Why you have the sudden urge to eat everything?

I often find myself craving something spicy to beat my stress, anxiety, and tension. While others may feel relief having a desert full of sugar and sweet. Everyone is a different type of stress eater. While occasionally picking a snack to eliminate boredom is fine. However, when stress eating becomes your habit, it can cause you more health problems.

This emotional eating cycle starts from your feeling of sadness and, you have this urge to eat something for self-satisfaction but, you end up feeling guilty or ashamed of over-eating.

 

Strategies to Manage Stress Eating 

You can stop being a stress-eater and change your lifestyle into a healthy and positive one by using these simple strategies. They are:

1.  Identify the cause behind emotional eating-

As soon as you find yourself craving for a specific type of food or snack, take a pause and find the root of this situation. Ask yourself- Why do I want to eat this food only? Check if something is bothering you? Are you stressed, worried, facing anxiety? Reflect and think if you are actually hungry or you only need food to calm your negative emotions. 

When you identify your eating habits and become aware, you will start ignoring the unhealthy food and shift towards healthy ones.

2. Shift to the right over comfort-

Before you reach a tub of ice cream or start opening packets of nachos, take a moment and wonder if this is what you want? Consuming junk once in a while is fine, but when you include it in your lifestyle, it causes obesity and other health problems.

Instead of loading yourself with unnecessary carbs and fats, switch towards those food groups that are enriched in vitamins and minerals and also boost our immunity. Such as chickpeas, raw seeds, fruits & vegetables, fish, chicken, etc.

3. Water is a problem-solution-

Keeping yourself hydrated throughout the day is another way of staying far away from stress-eating. Have you ever wondered your mood is off but without any specific reason? Well, this happens when we are not hydrated enough. 

Water is the solution to almost 70% of problems. Be it skin, hair, or any other internal problem, water is the solution for every difficulty. 

If you are bored of drinking plain water, why not add different ingredients to it to make it tasty? You can always go for herbal teas, smoothies, and lemon water to make your drinking habit fun and enjoyable.

4. Deal with your emotions-

Usually, we don't like sitting with our feelings and addressing them. So to avoid being in a negative state, we replace them with emotional eating. 

Dealing with your emotions can be scary, but you can achieve a peaceful state of mind with a guided meditation or breathing technique. You can also find some relaxation techniques that can help you cope up and face the emotions you are going through. 

You can also read this article, this can guide you to remain calm even with a busy schedule.

5. Follow a healthy lifestyle- 

It's easy for someone to grab some snacks out of their kitchen when they have already filled up their home with junk food. In some cases, when people can't resist eating something, they even order online. So to prevent yourself from overeating anything wrong, you should start following a healthy lifestyle. A healthy diet will not allow you to pick up junk when stressed but something healthy.

Usually, people think a healthy lifestyle is hard to maintain because they only have to eat healthy options throughout their life. But when you stock your kitchen with filling foods like whole-grain pasta, whole grain bread, oats, fruits, and other healthy items, you will not binge into unhealthy food items.

6. Distract yourself-

The best way to stop eating unhealthy is by focusing on other things.

The moment you find yourself craving something specific, tap onto other things that can make you feel relaxed and calm.

Distracting yourself on things like listening to music, going for a walk, and even drinking a big glass of water can stop you from eating emotionally.

Final Words

Have you ever felt like a victim? Do you self-pity all the time? 

Do you think the whole world is against you and no one seems to care about you?

Well if you do so or if you know someone who always thinks he is helpless and powerless then it may be because of victim mentality.

Who is a victim?

A victim is someone who has been robbed, attacked, humiliated, tortured physically. But when someone intentionally tries to divert the situation around himself, we might say, "He is playing a victim card!" Why? Because we can easily understand that nothing has happened to him or nobody tortured him, still he is self-pitying himself for no reason.

In general, we all are victims. At one point or other, we all have felt helpless. While some of us ditched our helplessness and stood firm but others couldn't leave their victim mindset. 

Signs of a victim mentality

Not everyone purposely plays a sympathy card, sometimes they don't know how to overcome a situation that leads to them being a victim. To know if you have a victim mindset or not, you must read the signs below:

• You feel everyone is against you.
• You accept your situation as it is.
• You don't do anything to come out of the unwanted situation.
• You blame others for your loss.
• You react annoyingly to negative feedback and criticism.
• You feel good when someone pity you.
• You constantly indulge in pessimistic self-talk and self-pity.
• You try to take sympathy from others.

How to ditch the victim mentality

1.  Be willing to change the situation

2. Stay away from negative people

3. Practice Forgiveness

4. Take a break

5. Empower yourself with positive self-affirmations

Final Words

 When you are indulged in pursuing your career goals, or fitness goals, or home duties, sometimes you forget who you are! While the sense of accomplishment you get feels good but it's important to focus on your mental health too.

The moment you wake up, you start calculating your day's duties and responsibilities without even being grateful for the same day. It's not that you are a selfish and ungrateful person, but amidst everything going on in your life, how many times have you taken care of yourself?

Do you take time out of your busy schedule to do a head massage? or How many times do you visit the salon for a hair spa?

Giving yourself a mental break is as necessary as meeting your deadlines. People, in general, believe that if they won't do as much hard work as others do, they might lag behind.

But you need to ensure that your competition is not with anyone else, but with yourself. So you need to take timely breaks to recharge and reset yourself.

Here are 8 healthy ways to give yourself a mental break so you won't stress out:

1.Prioritize restful activities- What are restful activities? A downtime or a restful activity is that which provides you comfort and relaxation. Which activity do you like to enjoy the most? 

Be it going outside to take a walk, or binging onto your favorite show, or dancing to a piece of good music whatever it is that makes you happy and that provides a break to your brain should be your priority. You should know that prioritizing these activities won't cost you enough money or your job. 

   2. Sleep More- We have always been listening to this phrase that a good sleep comprises of 7-8 hours and we must sleep for this affixed amount of time. Some finish their work as early as possible and sleep peacefully at night while others find it difficult to sleep.

If you also cannot sleep adequately at night, you can take a small nap in the daytime. If you have something important to finish and you are sitting in front of your laptop since morning, it's okay to set your work aside and take a small nap break to reset yourself. Sometimes you may wonder- "I should complete my work first, then I will do some other thing." While it's good that you are serious about your work, but continuously sitting and doing work will make you fatigued which can impact the quality of your work.

 3. Feed yourself with positivity- There are many days when we don't have any actual reason to be sad or worried but still we are stressed. Does this happen to you also? A possible reason behind unknown sadness can be some negative thoughts/phrases/news/quotes/films or anything related to that. 

4. Set aside all the financial worries- For one day, try to NOT think about your expenses, money that you owe to someone, financial bills, etc. Understand that worrying about your expenses won't going to sort it out or make you poor. So why trouble yourself by thinking about financial issues?

5. Stop multitasking- A study conducted at Stanford University stated how multitasking causes us stress and anxiety. We mostly do 3-4 tasks at once in order to finish them as quickly as possible. But we don't realize that when we are bombarded with several tasks at once, we lose our focus, memory, and productivity.

6. Release and burn your emotions- On a daily basis, we carry a lot with us, betrayals, failures, family problems, relationship issues, money, health, career, and what not! Every time when we solve one issue, the other stands in front of us causing our mind to work non-stop. Though already our brain is in the process of creating thoughts. However, when any unwanted situation stands up, we become negative.

To relax and reset our mental power, we need to release those emotions and burn them. 

How can we do so? Here is a 3-step-guide for you:

• Sit down comfortably and grab a pen and paper.
• Start writing down whatever is coming into your mind. All those negative thoughts, criticism, someone made you feel low, whatever is coming in your head, jot it down.
• Then stand up, get a matchstick, and burn that paper. Understand that it is normal and watch the paper is burning along with your negative sentiments.

Try it out once and you would feel relaxed, calm, and better by burning that paper. 

7. Switch off gadgets- Usually, adults spend most of their time on phones and other tech gadgets. Everywhere you go, you would find people either scrolling their news feed or capturing the best shot. Social media and technology have made our life easier but it has also impacted our health. We tend to compare ourselves with people, might watch disturbing news that affects our entire day, and much more.

8. Take mini-breaks- Doing small acts for your personal well-being is never a bad idea. You should know when to shut off the work and spend time by yourself. Schedule your work timings and break timings. This way your mind will not get tired and you will also increase your productivity level.

Final Words

 In our life, we all have been to a point where everything went wrong, nothing worked in our favor and then we got sad and frustrated.

We try to control the situation, hold our emotions in front of our family, and cry out loud by soaking our face against the pillow.

I know this feeling is terrible when we feel like- "I am Worthless!", "I am a burden to my family!"

At that moment we only want peace! Peace inside our heart, mind, and everywhere around us.

When we are hit back by a sudden change or a negative situation that is not in our control, we are often surrounded by negative emotions.

I would say it's okay to feel worthless at some point- because only then you would be able to recognize your true self.

However, continuously repeating negative self-talk and feeling bad about yourself will lead you to more negative situations. 

Let's think of what you can do when you are feeling low, sad, and worthless.

Here are the top 07 things to remember whenever you feel worthless:

1. This feeling is temporary-

2. Think of something positive-

3. You are perfect in your way-

4. Find your purpose- 

5. Start moving-

6. Start writing what you feel-

Final Thoughts

 The new year is here- which definitely means new resolutions!

Although nothing exactly changes with a new year. But most of us take a pledge with ourselves that -"This time I won't let people hurt me nor I would beg someone to love me."

However, with time some of us forget all our resolutions and start acting the same way we used to act the previous year.

Same disappointments with different people!

Have you ever thought about why someone else's behavior bothers you so much that your mental peace gets upside down?

Think of yourself in a light and happy mood and suddenly you meet someone or talk to someone who instantly puts you in a low vibration mode. This person can be anyone from your family, work, social group, or your spouse.

There are other cases also where we get hurt by our own people. Maybe their intention was not to hurt us or perhaps if someone to whom we are attached does something which we didn't expect them to do, we immediately react and think vigorously.

How to not let others affect you?

To remain unaffected by our surroundings is difficult but possible. We only have to take a step back and detach ourselves from it emotionally.

Here are 6 tips that can guide us to remain positive and unbothered by people's behavior:

1. Set your boundaries- If you want to save yourself from getting into the low vibrational mode, you just need to set boundaries for yourself.

According to Positive Psychology: A healthy boundary is a space between you and the other person which is drawn to ensure that your mental health remains stable. Boundaries determine what you will tolerate and what you will not!

Boundaries are your space which the other person must not cross.

How to Create Healthy Boundaries?

• If you don't like something say it clearly on the face of another person. For example, if someone asks you to do something which you think is crossing the limits of your particular relationship, simply say "NO". No need to over-explain everything.
• Be honest about your feelings. Do not care about what the other person would think. It is necessary to have honest conversations then telling lies.
• Make yourself a priority. If you have told everyone to whom you are close to and they still do not respect your boundaries, choose to walk away. 

2. Allow yourself to respond- When you witness the opposite of what you want, you have a choice- either to react immediately or to stay calm and let your brain respond after a few minutes.

Yes, we behave according to the actions of others. For instance, a teacher will get angry when he is teaching and a student is creating a disturbance in class. In that case, the teacher can give that student punishment, or perhaps he can calmly handle the situation and guide the child.

How to calmly handle things?

• Start deep breathing and don't overthink everything.
• Keep quiet and try to understand them.
• Start repeating Positive Self-Affirmations to yourself.

3. Move out of the past- Holding on to a grudge will only give you emotional harm and nothing else. If you are holding a grudge against someone then it's you who is being suffered. The other person won't even know and don't care about your feelings and emotions. They are happily enjoying their lives. 

4. Take responsibility for your emotions- You create your own reality and thoughts. Hence you are solely responsible for how you feel. Even if others do wrong with you, it's up to you how you will take it. You cannot rely on people to give you the reality that you desire. 

5. Realize that you cannot control them- You can control your own state of mind but not of others. How others behave, what others do is not what you should worry about. You must understand that you cannot force others to behave according to you. 

Would you like behaving on someone else's terms and conditions? No, right? In the same way, the action of another person is based on their karma and beliefs.

6. Your happiness is inside you- When you will start looking internally and not externally you'll have more patience and calmness. If any sudden setback would arise you will be able to handle it with patience and not get upset. That's the power of our inner state of mind.

Final Thoughts

Picking yourself up after failures can be tough. I know because I have been through it. 

No human in this world is 100% happy or living his best life. We all have low moments, sudden mishappenings, and lose our way. 

Some of us find our way back and go over the moon while some of us take time to get back on track. In life's journey, we may feel lonely, depressed, or even drop our confidence.

 Building confidence is a much easier task than rebuilding it. Because when you don't know anything, suppose you don't know how to drive a car, you will practice it and eventually learn it and have confidence over your driving skills.

On the other hand, rebuilding that confidence again what you have already tried or you already know can be difficult.

And that is why we are here to:-  

Rebuild our confidence when failures hit us

1. Take a break- Taking a break is a good option to de-stress your mind after unexpected setbacks or failures. Failures are meant to give you lessons or make you learn something which you would never learn if you would still be doing the same thing.

Or if you are pushing or beating yourself up and taking the entire burden on yourself about a current situation, then it's of no use. Taking the blame is not beneficial, not even for the short-term.

So, if you are struggling with unemployment or boredom after a sudden mishappening, try indulging in some other activity and shift your focus into something else. 

2. Embrace past victories- Remember the last time your dream job landed in your lap? That promotion you received without even putting many efforts! Reminiscing the past victories allows us to be more open to future opportunities. They allow us to think broader and better.

You might be aware that J.K Rowling received many rejections before publishing the Harry Potter Book. She dragged herself from severe poverty and became the first billionaire to enter into the name of Forbes. 

Even after several setbacks and facing rejections she didn't sit back and did not have negative self-talk instead, she worked hard to make her dream turn into reality.

3. Do some Voluntary act- If you are free right now and looking for your dream job, try volunteering in the same field or whatever you like. You will get the same sense of deadlines, schedules, and dependency on people that you would get in a paid job. Moreover, it will give you a new feel of experience and confidence and you might become more informative about the current trends in the industry.

4. Find a meaning- It's completely our choice as to how we deal with a particular situation. If you are hit back with a failure in your life, then it's up to you if you will consider it as a loss or a lesson. Sometimes, the biggest breakthroughs come in our life after major breakdowns. 

Re-building your confidence consists of giving meaning to the current situation or circumstance. Now that's what most of us fail to do so. We generally label a sudden mishappening as a "failure" or a "loss". Why? because that's how our brain works. Our brain immediately picks up an unwanted outcome or thing and consider it as negative without even realizing the actual purpose of it.

Start looking at your unwanted situation as a guide on how it is helping you or how it will take you to your desired destination. Give it an empowering meaning!

5.  Don't resist the change- Resisting and holding on to things will not take you anywhere. When what you want is going away from you, you hold it tight and prevent it from running away. I know it's difficult to let go of what you want as it gives you happiness and joy. However, if you will change your mindset and start accepting the situations and things as it is, you will find that you are in the best place in your life.

Let's say, you just lost your job or didn't do well in your exams and because of that, you have lost all your confidence. So rather than worrying and wanting those things back accept that situation and see what it is conveying to you as you will find the courage and confidence to move on in life.

6. Stand up on your own- Start taking baby steps and start moving forward. No matter how powerless you feel, you have to stand on your own to achieve your goals. Nobody is going to come and save you. 

Final words before goodbye