Let us Love Ourselves

Ever since I got married, I have been living in two worlds. One world is my present reality, where I live in a home with six people and a dog. The other is my maternal home, where there were only three of us—my mother, my brother, and me. We have witnessed the darkest of times together, yet we never left each other's side. Even when my brother had to move to another city for two years, my mother and I held each other's hands and got through everything together. Now that I am married, I don't find either of them around me the way I used to. It has been a little over seven months since my marriage. I have the best husband I could have ever dreamed of, and I am deeply grateful for him. Yet, I still feel homesick. It isn't that I face any abuse from my in-laws. Nor do they make me feel like an outsider. They have always treated me with kindness. But even then, I can't fully accept my new reality. Every night before going to sleep, I find myself imagining a different lif...

Have you ever felt tired even after getting enough sleep? Not physically tired. Emotionally tired. You wake up in the morning, but your mind already feels exhausted. Small things irritate you. Conversations feel heavy. You don't feel like talking to anyone. Even replying to messages feels like work. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Many women today are walking around emotionally drained without even realizing it. What Does "Emotionally Drained" Actually Mean? Being emotionally drained doesn't always mean you're sad or depressed. Sometimes it looks like this: Constant mental exhaustion Feeling overwhelmed by small tasks Losing interest in things you once enjoyed Wanting to be alone all the time Overthinking every conversation Feeling tired even after resting The strange part is that many women continue functioning normally while feeling this way. They go to work. They take care of their families. They smile. But internally, they're running on empt...

Are you feeling sad for no obvious reason? Well, sometimes it happens with me too. We all go through such moments once in a while. Sadness over the loss of a loved one, a specific item, or after a breakup is one thing, and being upset for no apparent reason is another. However, there are times when sadness is persistent and doesn't go away. It can be a flashback of the past trauma, childhood memories, or maybe a symptom of depression. This is why it is crucial to recognize what is bothering you and treat it immediately so that it does not harm you. Are you suffering from depression or, is it just your overthinking? Let us find out! source: pexels.com Before we move on to find out the difference between sadness and depression. I want to make it clear to you all that I am not a certified psychologist or a mental health counselor. Nor even I have studied psychology.  This article has been written with the help of all the external resources and my personal findings. While sadness and d...

 Do you also sometimes feel burdened by an emotion called- "Guilt"?  And then you start blaming yourself for the things you've done, and you wonder why you've done them. Well, let me tell you- "Guilt is the result of overthinking a situation or, more specifically, thinking about how others are feeling about the way you have responded to them!" If you have done something that made you happy and it gave you a sense of peace at that time, you should not feel bad about doing it. Guilt is nothing but normal human emotion. It isn't even a negative emotion; it indicates that you are moral and ethical and that you are aware that your decisions have consequences.  Most of the time we are accused of things for which we should not be guilty. This means that we apologize for the things for which no apology is needed. You hurt yourself when you feel guilty. It's you who has to suffer and not others. So why take the blame on yourself when you only think about you...

Imagine you have been asked to babysit a child,  How would you take care of him/her?  Or how you see a parent taking care of his/her child?  Obviously, every parent will give their best to their children. They are feeding them, making them aware of their surroundings, assisting them, helping them in their homework and other stuff, guiding them, and making them aware of right and wrong. As a parent or an elder sibling, you would never want your child or your younger sibling to suffer from anything, and also you would never try to intentionally hurt them. Despite providing care and nurturing to children, there are sometimes when a child feels neglectful. Some of us haven't got the same amount of love, time, attention, and validation in our childhood which has left a void in us and is somewhat still present there in our subconscious mind. That wound comes up when we are triggered or something terrible happens with us. To heal that wound, we need to Reparent Ourselves. ...

10 reasons..... Why you should love yourself!                The society we live in doesn't really apprise us to love ourselves. In schools and colleges also we are never taught to love ourself first. This is the reason why many students get themselves bullied as they did not know what that harm does to them.  I n short, there may be a million of reasons why we haven’t learned to love ourselves. But it is in our hands to learn how wonderful it is to feel loved by ourselves. And these are the remaining 5 reasons why it is important to learn how to do it. 6. You are your own Best friend The only person who will be with us from the moment we are born, to the moment we die is US. In short, who remains with us 24X7 is our BODY. But usually, we don't realise it because we are always in a search for a companion who will be with us,  who will praise us, who would go shopping with us and etc. We are generally reluctant to go alone because we don'...

10 reasons.....Why you should love yourself! Honestly, I never realized the value of myself until in 2018 I got dengue and was left with only 10,000 cells in my body. There were red and white patches on my whole body and the doctor immediately asked to transfer cells as my health was critical. 2 times I was transferred cells in a single day. You may be wondering, people had been through worse health conditions than me. I know this, there are bad and even more dangerous problems in the world. And I'm glad I had suffered a minor one. But only at that time, I realized I'm worthy. My presence actually affects me and my family. That was the major turning point in my life.  Anyways, moving ahead, let's talk about the 10 main reasons to love ourselves. In this post, we will cover the 5 reasons and the next 5 will be discussed in the upcoming post. It is logical Whenever you feel sad, just remember that there are billions of cells in your body and all they care about is YOU! Your b...

  What are the Reasons for self-love?               In the previous post, we have introduced ourselves to the concept of Self- love; which itself says- Love and learn who you are. Your only goal should be to fall back in love with yourself.  "If you love yourself, you love everybody else as you do yourself." - M. Echart Now, why is it important for us to do so? Okay, first tell me why is it essential for us to have food? Or why do we need to have a proper sleep schedule of 7-9 hours? and why do we need to have an adequate amount of water intake daily? We all know that these are the basic things a man requires. Right? And besides that, physical exercise is a must to have a healthy and strong body. Just like we need food, water, sleep, clothes, and home as our basic amenity, in the same way, we require self-love.  Self-love is the root of connecting us with our emotional, mental, spiritual, and religious levels. Self-love makes us pos...