Reasons for Self Love - 3

10 reasons.....
Why you should love yourself!

              The society we live in doesn't really apprise us to love ourselves. In schools and colleges also we are never taught to love ourself first. This is the reason why many students get themselves bullied as they did not know what that harm does to them. 

In short, there may be a million of reasons why we haven’t learned to love ourselves. But it is in our hands to learn how wonderful it is to feel loved by ourselves. And these are the remaining 5 reasons why it is important to learn how to do it.

6. You are your own Best friend

The only person who will be with us from the moment we are born, to the moment we die is US. In short, who remains with us 24X7 is our BODY. But usually, we don't realise it because we are always in a search for a companion who will be with us,  who will praise us, who would go shopping with us and etc.
We are generally reluctant to go alone because we don't know how to enjoy our own accompany. Most of us get desperate to get into a relationship just because our friends are in one. 
We search for our happiness outside when it is inside. 

There is a line in Gurbani - "Ghar Sukh Vasiya, Bahar Sukh Paya" Meaning - All life the man search for happiness outside his life, but the thing he is searching outside, dwells inside!!

So, just be with yourself. Do what you love and don't care about anyone else. Be your own self! Be your own best friend!

7. You can only give what you have

A person can learn to accept, understand and love others only if he loves, understand and accept himself first. He, who does not know what to give himself cannot give to others.
For instance, a person asks you to give him water, but you do not have it at home. In that case, you would first go to the market, buy a water bottle and then give it to that person.
Same is in the case of love. If you don't have love inside you can't give it to someone else. This will also slowly remove your expectations to get something in return from others.
Because that something you would already possess with yourself.

8. Discover your "real-self"

What does real- self mean? 
 Well, it says that if a person is of the perspective that he usually gets manipulative by others, or he is of the opinion that people are always hurting him, these are already the clear signs of dislike for himself. And if this dislike continued it can lead to depression.
So how can we pull ourselves from going towards depression?

Firstly, we should get ourselves out from "victim mode" and switch it into "powerful mode"

Secondly, we should always compliment ourselves and others. ( and that compliment should be genuine )

Lastly, we should set goals, no matter how big or small, but we should try to achieve them.

9. Let go of the past

Just let go of all the bad memories that haunt you. Stop fighting with your demons and instead focus your shift towards positivity. Any negativity you have experienced in the past shall only give you sadness and regret. Instead of criticizing yourself for the mistakes you have done in the past, focus on the lessons that you learned from that time. This way you will start concentrating on the good and hence shall focus towards happiness and positivity.

10. You are your own strength 

Remember who picked you up when you fell down?  Who wiped out your tears when you were crying? Who took the action when you were motivated? You, Yourself!
The relationship you have with yourself signifies your strength and will power. When we will love ourselves we won't tolerate any disrespect,  hatred or negativity from others. We won't let them treat us in a poor way. 
Others can guide us or enhance our life but at the end of the day, it is only our relationship with ourselves that explains that we are our own strength and we are our own guard. 
Thus, we do everything to protect ourselves from all sorts of discomforts.

Now you know how important it is to love yourself and you just need to decide to do it.

If you have not read the first and second posts of these series, then you can check out here below.⤵

Reasons for Self-love 2

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  1. I hate my living situation. Hence I hate my life and myself. I stuff my feelings and needs, and self-medicate with kratom.

    1. hey. dont be sad or hate your life. It is the beautiful gift of god given to us. You van talk with me and e mail me. May be i could help you in some way or the other.

    2. What gift? What God? I've lived through hell on earth.