Let us Love Ourselves

Do you also feel surrounded by voices in your head? Have you ever tried to listen to what those voices want to convey to you?  Do you get encouraged or upset after listening to them? Although I am not a professional therapist who can finish off your overthinking or negative thought patterns, I am a keen observer of my thoughts, and I constantly pay close attention to them. If I go back six months, I will find a different version of myself. I used to trust everything my head said and that my mind was in charge of me. But now, I am the one who controls my mind. After all, I am the operant power! I know how it feels when your mind is constantly uttering useless and wasted thoughts that do not have any value in your life. Negative thoughts drain and soak up our energy, and we feel tired without even doing any physical work.  Before we realize or become mindful of our thought patterns, the negative thinking has already manifested in our reality and we continue to live the same expe...

 Ask yourself-  "Do you want to play a role of cameo in someone else's movie?"  or  "Do you want to play a lead role in your own movie?" Of course, you would play a lead role.  But you can't be a lead hero if you're chasing someone and asking them to stay in your life. You are not seeing your worth and instead of wishing someone else to see your worth. How is that possible?  It isn't! So, if you want to be the star of your own movie and if you want to be happy, stop CHASING AND BEGGING others. The majority of today's relationships appear to be failing solely due to a lack of connection between the partners. You can't make someone understand how much you need them. The opposite partner should be able to accomplish everything on his or her own. The most essential thing to remember in this case is that you should never compel someone to stay in your life. You can't make somebody love you, care for you or remain with you. All you can do now i...

Do you still find yourself thinking about a friend or lover who has already left you? Do you still cry when you think of the time you spent with them? If yes, then you are doing wrong to yourself. Of course, some people would say that it's okay to feel what you feel.  That's true! You cannot move on from someone just like that especially when you have invested your time and energy in them.  But for a second, think logically that what are you even doing? Wasting your present moment over someone who doesn't even text you to ask- " if you are okay?"   Feeling stuck in your memory and not being able to enjoy your present life is the most painful thing.  No matter how much we say we don't miss them, it's heartbreaking when something important happens in your life and you want to share it with them but can't. As a result, we must first understand why this hurt so much. Why does it hurt so much? When people are hurting after a breakup, their first thought is ...

Attachment, either physical or emotional, helps to keep us going. Some may confuse it with love, while others are aware of their limits. So what is this need of becoming detached from others? Why do we frequently hear from others that they require space or that they wish to withdraw from a particular relationship?  Usually when the attachment is more from one side or when one person is giving more into a relationship they become emotionally dependent on someone.  Attachment and caring are a part of love. However, when you see yourself willing to do more for others, it means you are dependent on them.  This is why many therapists or motivators ask people to withdraw themselves from others so they do not get hurt. Here we will learn why, when & how to detach from someone. Detaching or detachment does not mean you should isolate yourself so that nobody can hurt you. It means to focus on yourself and your needs so that you do not worry about someone else's behavior. It is...