Let us Love Ourselves

Have you ever felt tired even after getting enough sleep? Not physically tired. Emotionally tired. You wake up in the morning, but your mind already feels exhausted. Small things irritate you. Conversations feel heavy. You don't feel like talking to anyone. Even replying to messages feels like work. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Many women today are walking around emotionally drained without even realizing it. What Does "Emotionally Drained" Actually Mean? Being emotionally drained doesn't always mean you're sad or depressed. Sometimes it looks like this: Constant mental exhaustion Feeling overwhelmed by small tasks Losing interest in things you once enjoyed Wanting to be alone all the time Overthinking every conversation Feeling tired even after resting The strange part is that many women continue functioning normally while feeling this way. They go to work. They take care of their families. They smile. But internally, they're running on empt...

  Welcome back to Only Self Love . If you’re reading this, I want you to take a second. Stop scrolling. Just inhale... and exhale. Today I want to talk about something so simple, yet impossibly difficult: the physical act of holding ourselves together. The image I shared above—that soft, quiet moment by the window—isn’t a pose. It’s a snapshot of a practice that saved me during one of my hardest seasons. It’s the art of the self-hug. We are so quick to offer a comforting touch to others. If a friend cries, your arm goes around their shoulder. If a partner is stressed, you rub their back. We know, instinctively, that human touch heals. It lowers cortisol; it signals safety. But when we are the ones falling apart, what do we do? Often, we tighten up. We clench our jaws. We isolate. We retreat into the cold fortress of our own anxiety. We deny ourselves the very comfort we generously give to everyone else. A few years ago, I was completely overwhelmed. My anxiety was a physical weigh...

Hey there, I’m Manveen . If you’ve been following my life lately, you know that just two months ago, I said "I do" in a beautiful, loud, and very colorful Punjabi wedding . The honeymoon phase is wonderful, but I’ll be honest with you—the transition hasn’t just been about picking out new curtains or learning how to share a closet. It’s been a whirlwind of navigating a whole new set of cultural expectations. In our Punjabi culture , marriage isn't just between two people; it’s a merger of two entire universes. And with that comes a lot of "traditional" pressure that can honestly feel a bit heavy sometimes. The Pressure to be "The Perfect Bahu" From the moment the henna faded, I felt the shift. There’s this unspoken manual on how a new bride should act—how much she should cook, how she should dress, and how she should prioritize everyone else’s needs above her own. I realized quickly that if I wasn't careful, I'd lose the "Manveen" I w...

Many of us have servants and maids at our homes who follow our instructions and do what we ask them to do in return for wages and salaries. Now, think of your body as a servant working hard to keep you healthy. If you give it healthy and nutritious foods, enough sleep, moderate exercise, and happy thoughts, then its work will become easy. On the other hand, if you fill it up with negative and toxic foods and thoughts, then guess what? Your energy will start depleting; you will get sick and do much more than you want. Understanding that there are some things we should not do is crucial in the quest for improved health. Avoiding becoming upset with our bodies is a crucial component. Despite its strange sound, this idea is based on the strength of affirmations and positive thinking. When we are angry with our bodies, we express unhappiness with them or even with certain body parts. Treating your body with love Keep your focus off of your ailments if you want to improve your health. Rather...

We all experience moments when we find ourselves with ample free time but are unsure how to make the most of it. Rather than letting it slip away, we can utilize this precious resource to engage in meaningful activities that enhance our well-being and personal growth. I am sure just like me, you also experience some alone time when you want to go outside but due to some reasons, you cannot. Or, there could be another circumstance when you want to avoid hanging out and enjoying your own accompany. But what activities can you do to make the most of your free time?  Well, we'll find that in this blog post! Tips to make the most of your free time Even though you might not enjoy social isolation, you might feel uneasy when bored. You may think, I have no friends or nobody has nothing to do with me. Today I have nothing on my plate. Why do I feel this way? Then there are the Millennials, who must constantly be online or engaged in activity. It can be a little unsettling for children to h...

It's essential to develop habits that improve our general well-being and provide us the opportunity to live life to the fullest if we want to be happy and fulfilled. We can open the way to a happier, more fulfilling life by implementing these five transformative practices into our daily lives.  Without further ado, let's dive into the habits that will empower you to embrace life's abundance. 1. Practice Gratitude:  Gratitude is a powerful force that can transform our perspective and enrich our lives. Start each day by acknowledging the things you are grateful for. It can be as simple as the warmth of sunlight on your face or the love of your family and friends. You can think back on the good things in your life and cultivate an attitude of thankfulness by keeping a gratitude journal. By shifting your focus to what you have, you'll experience increased contentment and joy. Related:  Benefits of gratitude one must read 2. Cultivate Mindfulness:  In our fast-p...

You may have heard phrases like "The relationship you have with yourself defines the relationship you have with others." This is absolutely true because the way you treat yourself is the way others will treat you.  Sometimes I have a hard time remembering to take care of myself because I get so focused on the people I like. I schedule everything around them and forget about my own needs. It's like they've become the most important things in my life. Guess what happens next? I depend on them for my emotional needs and happiness, and they have no choice but to leave me.  Sometimes I feel like I need someone else to be happy, but that's not true. It's because when I was little, I didn't love myself enough. That's why I work on loving myself now, so I can have a happy life and attract good things to me. If you find it hard to make good friends or get along with others, it's important to start being kind to yourself. When you like who you are, you will ...

 "They say nothing changes if you don't change!" If you want to change your life, no matter your gender, then it's high time for you to make some amendments to it. Becoming a high-value man or woman is easy if you know how to do it. Or else, you'll always attract the same patterns of people that will hurt you in the end. No matter how you were treated in the past, you still have the power to change your life and become the man or woman everyone pursues. In this blog post, we'll learn some essential yet necessary things that we must implement if we want to improve our self-worth and become the high-value man or woman everyone desires. Let's embark on this journey of using our power to the fullest: Attributes of a high-value man or woman 1. Know your worth: People will treat you the way you treat yourself. If you consider yourself undeserving and have a low sense of worth, you will get the same from the outside world. Being a valuable woman doesn't mean...

We all understand the value of a healthy diet, regular exercise, adequate rest, and balance between work and leisure. The reason all that is so crucial is something we don't often discuss, but it all comes down to safeguarding your mental energy.  No matter how rich you are or how many resources you have, if you do not have mental peace within yourself, you have nothing. Be it your ideal job or the best friend you always wanted, if having both is causing you more stress than anything then there is no point in having them in your life. According to research, every one of us has a limited supply of mental energy. Every time we focus and make decisions, we significantly drain our daily mental capabilities, making it more difficult to maintain self-control later. It can be challenging to focus more effort on what is truly vital if you waste time and energy on decisions and chores that aren't as crucial. Cutting out the clutter can help you maintain your attention on what really cou...

With the end of 2022 approaching and the arrival of 2023, it is time to reflect on the 12 months that shaped you into the person you are today. I remember in December 2021 I wrote a goal about publishing my first ebook on Amazon, which I accomplished in May this year.  This  ebook  is close to my heart, as it made me start my journey of loving and accepting myself. Now that 2023 is approaching, I was wondering if I should make another goal of writing my next book or something else. With that in mind, here I am listing five daily habits that will help us improve our mental health in 2023. Because even if you are taking your vitamins, going to work, and earning money, if your mental health is not good, then there is no use for these worldly goods. Habits to start in 2023 that will improve your overall health 1. Become conscious- The first habit that you must practice in your life is becoming aware. No matter what you are doing, be it eating, working, exercising, or talking ...

2023 is just around the corner, and sadly, many of us haven't been able to reach our 2022 goals.  But instead of criticizing ourselves for not being self-disciplined and sticking to our healthy routine, let us congratulate ourselves for sustaining through difficult times. I remember writing down my yearly goals on January 1, 2022, and I was so excited to meet them. One of them was writing a  self-help book    which I accomplished within five months, and I am so proud of myself. Other than this, I was able to complete a few more, though some are still pending. But instead of wasting time on criticism, let's concentrate on what lies in store for us in the future. For each of us, the beginning of the year feels like setting new intentions, accomplishing some materialistic things, and earning more money. But sadly, there are very few who focus on their well-being and set targets to improve their mental and emotional health. As a preacher of self-love and mental health, I...

  If you have read my ebook  "It All Starts With You" , you already know what topic I am going to write about here. In that e-book, I have already shared the importance of self-care and why putting yourself over others is not selfish. I don't know what inspired me, but in this blog post, I again want to talk about the same. Perhaps because self-care is still undervalued today. Part of the cultural society, especially when it comes to women are believed to be a superwoman. They are considered to work and do stuff for others and never get tired. In fact, men too are thought to be emotionless and robust because they are never seen expressing their concerns like women and being vulnerable. Therefore, self-care and putting yourself before others are essential for everyone irrespective of gender.  The real issue arises when we consider elevating ourselves above others. When we love our family, spouse, friends, and children, we tend to consider their needs above ours and how we ...