Let us Love Ourselves

Being a big overthinker my whole life, I always thought my life was hard. Though I faced several circumstances that made my life difficult, I am now realising that sometimes it was also my overthinking mind that made a problem much bigger than it actually was.  Now that I am married, I am beginning to realise just how much I overthink. Suppose there are six members in our home, and my brain has the habit of wondering, Why is this person not talking to me? Why did that person ignore me? Did I say something wrong? Is someone upset with me? And the questions never seem to end. The more I tell myself that I never want to be a people-pleaser, the more I realise that I am indirectly becoming one. I find myself paying attention to people's moods, their reactions, their words, and sometimes even their silence. Sometimes, my brain thinks so much that my head starts hurting. 😞 And the worst part? Most of the time, I don't even know whether the things I am worrying about are actually tru...

How often do you pass remarks casually to someone jokingly or just passing by? It happens all the time, right?  Have you ever considered how those words would make the other person feel? Probably not. The worst part? We don't make these casual, often harsh statements to strangers. Instead, we say them to those we claim to love and care about: our parents, siblings, spouse, friends, in-laws, or children. However, we rarely pause to consider whether our comments have harmed someone. We think we are just joking, but we never realize that the other person might take it seriously and feel deeply hurt. Sometimes, a simple remark can be enough to make someone feel “worthless,” “useless,” or “unlovable.” Its their problem, they took it personally! You might dismiss their feelings by saying, "if they are crying over silly things, its their problem." Yes, it is their problem! But as someone who cares for them, dont you think you should not have said what you felt?  Most  people...

Self-love is not a new term for anyone. Whenever you open your social media, you always get a post shared by someone telling you to love yourself before you love someone else. But there are still many men and women who claim they love themselves yet they get this urge to be loved by someone else, which is entirely normal.  Even a self-love coach will like to settle down with the love of their life, but the only difference between a person who genuinely loves themselves and a person who only claims to love themselves, is that the former is never desperate to get into a relationship. A true self-lover focuses on improving themselves day by day while a "fake self-lover" gets upset seeing other people posting the reels with their partner. Yes, sometimes it happens. When you are all alone, you want to get cuddled by your partner, talk deeply with them, and share your best and worst moments with them. Because the honeymoon period is never the same, every relationship eventually hit...