Let us Love Ourselves

Being a big overthinker my whole life, I always thought my life was hard. Though I faced several circumstances that made my life difficult, I am now realising that sometimes it was also my overthinking mind that made a problem much bigger than it actually was.  Now that I am married, I am beginning to realise just how much I overthink. Suppose there are six members in our home, and my brain has the habit of wondering, Why is this person not talking to me? Why did that person ignore me? Did I say something wrong? Is someone upset with me? And the questions never seem to end. The more I tell myself that I never want to be a people-pleaser, the more I realise that I am indirectly becoming one. I find myself paying attention to people's moods, their reactions, their words, and sometimes even their silence. Sometimes, my brain thinks so much that my head starts hurting. 😞 And the worst part? Most of the time, I don't even know whether the things I am worrying about are actually tru...

If I look back on my life, I see a different person standing right there. This version of me spent more than enough time to be liked and appreciated by others. I used to give people more than enough chances that they deserved. I tried to be perfect. I tried to fit in with various groups of people in order to feel accepted and appreciated. Many times in my life, I've done things I didn't want to do to please people. Because I didn't know how to say no to people, I damaged my self-esteem and moral ideals. People-pleasers are well-known for going out of their way to make others happy. While being helpful and nice to others is a good thing. But going too far to please others can leave you emotionally tired, agitated, and anxious. Who is a people-pleaser? A people-pleaser is a person who generally has low self-esteem so he asks others to give him love, respect, and attention.  By pleasing people and making them happy, one neglects his self-confidence and self-worth. According to...