Let us Love Ourselves

Have you ever been in a situation where you asked someone to do something for you, and they refused, giving you some lame excuse? And after some time, do you see them doing the same thing for someone else? Did that hurt you? Did you question your self-worth after that? Well, what if I told you it was never your fault if they never realized the value of a diamond? Okay, let me explain this with an example! Imagine spending hours making a delicious homemade pizza for your best friend, only to have them reject it in exchange for a classy takeaway meal with their new friends. Yes, that hurts. But consider this: what matters are their choices and taste buds, not the pizza (or the effort). It's acceptable that various things appeal to different people. Relationships are the same. No matter how much you give, sometimes others won't value it equally. They may not feel the same connection because they are busy, have different priorities, or have other reasons. What was the most challeng...

Don't we all want things to go our way? It is our right to be happy and content in all areas of our lives. While we try to fix everything, be it jobs, relationships, or wealth, we forget to enjoy the little moments of life. We believe that we have to put more effort into getting the results we want. But sometimes, leaving things in God's hands can be fruitful. Controlling every aspect of life can be draining and exhausting and can bring negative emotions, which can lead to dissatisfaction. When you realize you have no control over external events, you can redirect your efforts elsewhere. You can concentrate on the only thing over which you have control: your responses, mindset, attitude, and outlook.  Furthermore, your confidence and focus can be increased, which can lead to a greater sense of strength and contentment. Why do we feel the urge to control things? There are times when some things will work out as we planned, and there will be times when things will not go our way....

Do you still find yourself thinking about a friend or lover who has already left you? Do you still cry when you think of the time you spent with them? If yes, then you are doing wrong to yourself. Of course, some people would say that it's okay to feel what you feel.  That's true! You cannot move on from someone just like that especially when you have invested your time and energy in them.  But for a second, think logically that what are you even doing? Wasting your present moment over someone who doesn't even text you to ask- " if you are okay?"   Feeling stuck in your memory and not being able to enjoy your present life is the most painful thing.  No matter how much we say we don't miss them, it's heartbreaking when something important happens in your life and you want to share it with them but can't. As a result, we must first understand why this hurt so much. Why does it hurt so much? When people are hurting after a breakup, their first thought is ...

Attachment, either physical or emotional, helps to keep us going. Some may confuse it with love, while others are aware of their limits. So what is this need of becoming detached from others? Why do we frequently hear from others that they require space or that they wish to withdraw from a particular relationship?  Usually when the attachment is more from one side or when one person is giving more into a relationship they become emotionally dependent on someone.  Attachment and caring are a part of love. However, when you see yourself willing to do more for others, it means you are dependent on them.  This is why many therapists or motivators ask people to withdraw themselves from others so they do not get hurt. Here we will learn why, when & how to detach from someone. Detaching or detachment does not mean you should isolate yourself so that nobody can hurt you. It means to focus on yourself and your needs so that you do not worry about someone else's behavior. It is...

 Do you also sometimes feel burdened by an emotion called- "Guilt"?  And then you start blaming yourself for the things you've done, and you wonder why you've done them. Well, let me tell you- "Guilt is the result of overthinking a situation or, more specifically, thinking about how others are feeling about the way you have responded to them!" If you have done something that made you happy and it gave you a sense of peace at that time, you should not feel bad about doing it. Guilt is nothing but normal human emotion. It isn't even a negative emotion; it indicates that you are moral and ethical and that you are aware that your decisions have consequences.  Most of the time we are accused of things for which we should not be guilty. This means that we apologize for the things for which no apology is needed. You hurt yourself when you feel guilty. It's you who has to suffer and not others. So why take the blame on yourself when you only think about you...

  Who doesn't want a happy life? Who doesn't want a new car, a better job, a financially secured career? Everyone looks for ways to enjoy and be happy. But if something bad persists, our happiness immediately turns into sadness and we start blaming the environment or our surroundings. Whenever something bad happens or a person is sad, it is always said that- "be positive"! But no one can remain positive all the time. It's impossible to not let situations or people affect you especially if you are an overthinker. Related:  How to stop overthinking? Being a happy person requires more good thoughts, good feelings, and letting go of all those things that don't serve your happiness.  Instead of depending on others to be happy, you must let go of some things that suck the happy person out of you. Here are 10 things to let go of to be a happy person: 1. Let go of the past- Letting go of the past and moving on can be difficult if you are in love or attached to a pers...

Why do we need to forgive ourselves? source: google “Forgiveness is for yourself because it frees you. It lets you out of that prison you put yourself in.” Louise Hay Forgiveness can be difficult especially when it comes to our dear ones. Forgiving someone is not easy who has hurt us. Though we sometimes may even forgive them we never forget their actions or their words which treated us poorly. This person can be anyone, our spouse, siblings, parents, friends, or colleagues. However, what is more difficult, is to forgive ourselves! We honestly don't even know that we are the ones who are hurting ourselves by replaying the scenario of the past events than the person who had actually hurt us. Forgiving someone else may become easy at a particular point in time because when we forgive others we somehow know that it is the only thing to save our relationship and the other person is also a human and we all make mistakes. Yet when it's time to forgive ourselves we don't realize ...