Let us Love Ourselves

Do you feel like bad things keep happening to you one after the other? If some days things are not happening as you desired, do you feel like something is not good? Most of us live our lives feeling okay. We pray to God to get us out of bad situations, and when those situations disappear from our lives, we feel happy for a few minutes or days, and then we again get back to the cycle of feeling okay. Everyone says to keep thinking positively all the time, but how do we do so? How can someone generate good thoughts 24x7?  Is it possible? Let's find out! Being positive all the time sucks!!! Those who say "be positive no matter what" is simply spreading toxic positivity. According to  Wikipedia - "It is a pressure to stay upbeat no matter how dire the situation is." One cannot be happy or even okay if someone in his family is sick or he recently got fired. Hence, the point of remaining positive in difficult situations is invalid.  However, developing and maintaining...

Do you hate spending time alone? Do you get frustrated when suddenly your plans to go out get canceled? I am sure most of you probably answered yes to the above questions. Because why not? A man is a social animal, and he always wants to be surrounded by a group of people to chill with and have fun. However, if there is a time when you have no other option but to sit by yourself without your friends and family, what makes you so desperate to go out?  Why do you hate spending time alone? Of course, we need to maintain a balance between spending alone time with ourselves and spending time socializing.  I myself get desperate some days because I so want to go out, but having no social circle makes me sad and angry.  There are days when I want to be alone and spend time with myself, and there are other days when I feel lonely in my own company.  If you didn't want to be alone but ended up feeling lonely and now this thing is scaring you off, then relax and read this enti...

Do you also feel people keep getting under your skin? Do you often get irritated by someone else's simple yet weird habits?  If so, you are not alone here! We all sometimes get disturbed by the behavior of others.  Now let me tell you the hard TRUTH!  If you keep getting offended or even hurt by someone's words, actions, or behavior, that is your problem. Because people behave according to their knowledge, wisdom, and karma. This does not have to do anything with you or your mood.  You might think that it is impossible to keep calm when someone is constantly making you angry, frustrated, or irritated.  But ask yourself if they are giving you the negative emotions or are you creating them on your own?  When we are aware that our soul is made of seven qualities, which are purity, peace, love, joy, bliss, power, and knowledge, then why would we create negative emotions and hurt ourselves? We believe that the other person is to blame for how we feel because we ...

Do you also regret your words after a conversation? We spend most of our time reacting to events and things happening in our environment. The problem is that these reactions aren't always the best course of action; as a result, they can upset others, make things worse for us, and even worsen the situation. Sometimes we don't even intend to hurt others, but because we unknowingly react to the words of others, we may end up hurting our loved ones.  This is why it is widely said by doctors and motivational and spiritual leaders to respond instead of reacting. Before we move on to the practical advantages of responding, we must first know the difference between the two. Once we are aware of the pros and cons of reacting, we will automatically implement responding in our behavior. Reacting refers to an instant response to an event or circumstances. For example, you hit me, so I'll hit you. You cheated, so I'll cheat as well. You irritated me. I will irritate you more. A reac...

Moving on is the toughest decision we ever make in our lives. All the flashbacks, memories, late-night calls, and cute conversations hit us hard in the faces and keep replaying in our heads. But endless fights, disrespectful and mean comments, physical or mental abuse, and feeling miserable, lonely, and unhappy are the TOP SIGNS you must let go of someone you love. I know how hard it is to suddenly stop talking to someone who you thought was your best friend for life.  In this post, I will give you some effective steps to follow that will improve your healing journey and help to soothe your wounds.  Before starting, let me tell you, I too have been through this phase in my life, and it wasn't easy at all. I used to cry almost every day. My chest felt heavy, and my heart was in pain throughout that time. But I followed some steps, took one day at a time, and gradually learned to be emotionally independent. Related:  It All Starts With You- Your guide to self-love Easy Step...

  If you have read my ebook  "It All Starts With You" , you already know what topic I am going to write about here. In that e-book, I have already shared the importance of self-care and why putting yourself over others is not selfish. I don't know what inspired me, but in this blog post, I again want to talk about the same. Perhaps because self-care is still undervalued today. Part of the cultural society, especially when it comes to women are believed to be a superwoman. They are considered to work and do stuff for others and never get tired. In fact, men too are thought to be emotionless and robust because they are never seen expressing their concerns like women and being vulnerable. Therefore, self-care and putting yourself before others are essential for everyone irrespective of gender.  The real issue arises when we consider elevating ourselves above others. When we love our family, spouse, friends, and children, we tend to consider their needs above ours and how we ...

Your relationship with yourself is the most valuable relationship you will ever have in your life. The reason I always talk about self-love and self-relationship is that I have seen immense changes and growth within myself as soon as I befriended myself. The way one feels about themselves is essential to healthy development. It's about loving yourself well for who you are. In my e-book,  It All Starts With You , I have given you a whole picture of the self-love journey and how to start one. If you have some time for yourself, do check it out! Many of us simply don't allow ourselves to accept and love ourselves, so how can we expect to be in a healthy and loving relationship with ourselves or others? Well, to curate a self-sufficient connection with who you truly are, you must first start with self-love. It starts with finding beauty within yourself and accepting yourself for who you are. What is self-acceptance? When you do not change yourself for anyone else, be it peer pressu...