ATTITUDE/SIGNS OF A LOW CONFIDENT PERSON/ LOW SELF-ESTEEM
For some confidence and self-esteem are 2 different terms while for others they both are part of each other.
I have combined them both and gathered some signs of a low confident person.
What is Self- Esteem?
Self-esteem is your view of yourself. What you say to yourself on daily basis. What you do throughout your day defines your self-esteem. The perception you have about yourself is your self-esteem.
You may have met a person who is financially okay, doing a modest job but still, he is happy, loving himself and the world, giving positive vibes, and is grateful for what he has.
On the other hand, there is someone to whom no amount of wealth, prestige, friends, relations matter, but he always complaints about everything.
Your day to day thoughts, feelings, emotions tell either you are a Low Self-esteemed person or a High Self-esteemed person.
What is Self-Confidence?
Confidence is believing in yourself and others that a person can do the work confidently. Confidence is the ability to believe that you are good to yourself (and others). It gives you immense joy when you start thinking that you are not above and not below to others. When you change your mindset and start believing in your abilities that is when you develop self-confidence.
Self - confidence is far different from being egoistic or rude to others.
You have confidence in yourself, in your abilities, in your belief system. You should never try to disrespect others in any way by thinking that you are above them. No one is above ourselves, except the Divine God.
Here are 8 Attitudes of a Low Confident Person.
1. Not Speaking Up for Your Wants and Needs
If you are someone who hesitates to speak up in front of 4-5 people about anything you might be lacking confidence. It's good if you do not indulge in unnecessary conversations. However, there may be some of us who are suffering in silence and not taking out our emotions.
Speak to others about why you are angry, what you think, how you feel, and what matters to you.
2. Always Blaming Yourself
The thing that holds us back is the feeling of guilt or shame and we blame ourselves for all the wrong events of our life.
Suppose you had a breakup, you will start thinking "maybe it was my fault", " I didn't know how to love". OR
You failed in an exam, you may think " I always end up failing this subject", "I am this or that".
This feeling of humiliation makes you lose your confidence and you end up sitting at a place where you shouldn't be.
If you are blaming yourself for everything, then STOP IT NOW!
Let go of the past and learn from your mistakes.
3. Not Believing in Yourself
This is another important sign of lack of confidence or low self-esteem.
When you do not believe in yourself, in your abilities you can never achieve success.
No human in this world is born without talents. Everyone who is sent to earth has a talent you just need to find it and show it to the world.
Related; why-believe-yourself-must.html
4. Always Trying to Please Others
Ask yourself are you a people pleaser? Do you always stress out if someone may not like you? Do you dress up not for yourself but others so that you get compliments?
If yes, then don't do that!
When you are doing everything for others just for the sake of a compliment then your individuality doesn't show up.
Everyone takes you for granted and your worth shows nowhere.
If you want to please someone, then please YOU!
5. Doing Negative Self Talk
A little self-criticism is good as it gives you a reality check, you know where you stand and what you need to improve. It is like your own motivator.
However, if you are constantly repeating negative things to yourself then you will attract those things in your life.
For example, you are saying to yourself- " I am not good enough ", " I don't have any future" "I am broke". When these affirmations are repeated they are sent to the universe and with the Law of Karma, they come back to you.
I will not ask you to stop thinking these thoughts, because then you will think more of them.
In this case, you need to shift your focus towards more positive things and bring more positivity to your life.
Related; overcoming-negative-thoughts.html
6. Afraid to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
Life will keep on throwing rocks at you, it will keep on giving you struggles and problems until you are forced to get out of your comfort zone.
Everyone wants to have a martini mocktail at a beach and have a tan but nobody wants to get themselves out and work hard and earn money and then live their desired life.
I know it's not easy especially during these times when we were living in quarantine in our comfort homes but now some of us have to find a job for us or start searching for a new idea for our business.
It is not easy, but nothing comes easy if we will not take a step out.
7. Not Doing Anything New
This sign is a part of the above-mentioned point. When we live according to our convenience we do only those things which are easy and fun such as watching movies, eating processed foods, hanging out with our friends and not doing anything which makes us grow.
In your daily routine try adding some new habits which will satisfy both your spiritual and mental life.
8. Avoiding Social Gathering
Well, it's good if you avoided social gatherings during these tough times!!
However, deliberately avoiding social gatherings just because you think you don't match the level of people then that is a sign of low confidence.
If you are left alone at a party even for 2 minutes, you can't resist but check out your phone.
This shows your discomfort in public.
You may have this fear because you think other people will judge you.
Relax! Nobody is going to judge you.
Enjoy your present moment and be happy.
Have you ever noticed any of these signs in yourself and others?
If you relate to any of these signs just know that you are not alone in this. We all go through different periods of our life and that's what makes us strong.
So, what do you think about this article?
Let me know in the comment section.
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