How To Stop Falling For Toxic People?

Have you always ended up attracting the same kind of relationship but with a different person?

Do you wonder why it always happens to you that you end up feeling the same pain or hurt as the last time?

 

If this might have always remained an unresolved mystery for you then from today onwards it will not.

Today we will learn more about toxic relationships and how we can cut toxic people out of our lives.

Why do we attract toxic or narcissistic people in our lives?

No matter how strong we surface on the outside, some part of our soul always searches for its twin flame.

And if we find someone that we think is the one, we rush into being in a relationship with them.

Some of you might have connected to a person within just a few days of talking to them and ended up surrendering your feelings to them.

And then they gaslight you. Isn't it?

Let's find out the reasons you keep attracting the same kind of men in your life who act distant afterward.

Reasons you attract the same kind of persons in your life is because:

1. You might have low self-esteem- This may not be true to all of you but persons with poor self-esteem are more susceptible to toxic men's temptation. Because they want external validation, such people will go to great lengths to satisfy their partners, even if it means letting them get away with wrongdoings. 

You better work on your self-esteem by learning more about self-love and self-care.

2. You meet them on the wrong platforms- Today there are several applications for dating, such as Tinder, Bumble, and even Clubhouse. Guys on these applications are usually looking for either physical relationships or to play dating games. There are very few chances that you will meet a guy with genuine intentions. So, if you are using such applications, be prepared for all the outcomes.

3. You surrender yourself so easily- When a guy starts talking to you day and night, you also reciprocate the same. But if you give more than what you are receiving in return then you end up getting hurt. If he acts distant, you wonder what went wrong! This is because you are keeping him above your worth.

Toxicity can be harmful in so many ways. if you have just started talking to a new guy and want to save yourself from a major heartbreak then watch out for these signs in him:

• He is a liar and you have caught his lies many times.
• He is manipulative and controlling.
• He plays the victim card.
• He acts distant after you meet him.
• He does not care about your feelings.

Related: Signs of a narcissist and toxic person

How to cut off that toxic person from your life?

No matter how attracted you feel to that toxic guy it is never worth the heartbreak you are going to face in the end. 

So let's follow these rules that could prevent you from falling into the trap of toxic men:

• Make distance from him- Firstly, remember that you do not owe anything to anyone. So they do not hold the pass to enter your life every time they want. If talking to them is draining your mental energy then stop the communication right there. If you both belong to a certain group then do not hang out when they are at the same place. Yes, it's equally important to face your fears but firstly you have to take care of your mental health.

 

• Block them if necessary- Some relationships may require you to cut off complete contact with them if it's bothering your mental health. In case, you think seeing them online on social media is affecting you a lot then shut them off on your social media and live a stress-free life.

• Set your boundaries- The power to be happy lies in your hands. Set your boundaries and stick to them. If you have made up your mind to ignore their calls then do not pick them no matter how much you want to talk to them. 

Related: How to set healthy boundaries?

• Indulge in self-care- When you have already made a tough decision to cut off contact with the person you like, now it's time to do something for your soul. Instead of sitting back and crying for them, get up and do something that makes you happy. I know it's difficult to not think about that person. This is why I am reminding you to do any sort of fun activity that will help you to change your mindset.

• Love yourself- When you love the person you look at in the mirror, you don't go and chase love. Thus, prioritizing your needs and worth is never wrong. So while you wait for the right one to come, pull down that emotional baggage and heal yourself. When you will remain in the abundance mindset instead of a scarcity mindset, the right person will automatically gravitate towards you.  

Conclusion

A right man will never make you doubt his intentions towards you. You will know that he is right for you by trusting your gut feelings.

So before you let any guy enter your life, know him properly and do not fall into any of his trap.

Always remember your worth baby girl!