How To Deal With Difficult People and Protect Your Energy

Since I always preach about loving yourself and why self-love is so important, I thought of writing something this week that most of us often go through.

Dealing with harmful or toxic people in our day-to-day lives.

Although labeling someone as "toxic," "manipulator," or "narcissistic" is not correct, what else can you say to someone who pulls all your energy the moment you interact with them?

Whether it's someone at your job, it could be a colleague sitting next to you, your manager or your boss, or anyone else outside your job, like a family member or a gym friend.

When you see or engage with them, you feel like your cup is getting emptier.

If such negative, energetic people also surround you, it's time for you to protect your mental peace and happiness.

While everyone deserves compassion and kindness, how can you provide them with love and compassion if they are soaking up your energy, too?

So here's what I have come up with to help you deal with difficult people and how you can protect your energy.

Let's dive in now!

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1. Try not to react: When you know a person is toxic and can't do anything but be in the same place with them, it is time to own your power. Do not react to what they say or do. It may be difficult for you at first, but when you know nobody can take away your joy, you will not bother to give them attention. Focus on doing your tasks and remain in your power.

2. Watch your time: If your friend has a habit of venting about their problems with you, you often get confused if you listen to them or don't pick up their call. But how many times can you avoid not answering them? If you're not careful, negative people can dominate your time even when they're not around. Spending two hours dreading a one-hour encounter with a pessimistic person is easy. So all you can do is change their negative talk to something positive, like the good things that happened to them, or cherish your memories with them. In this way, you protect your time and bless them with your positive energy.

3. Keep a check on your ego: I understand that listening to and watching some brainless political leaders speak badly about your religion, community, or people can boil your blood, which makes you jump over the conversation on social platforms. But any time you react to negative energy, stress about looking as nice as someone else, or attempt to "fix" someone's perception of you, your ego is at work. Think before you act. Keep your ego in check so you don't squander time or energy. First, consider whether or not this issue is even worth your precious energy. Most likely, it isn't. Find another way of speaking right for your lives and your people.

4. Set boundaries: Setting boundaries is an easy way of protecting your energy. Let your energy vampires know that you have something else to do or that you can't drink even if everyone is drinking at the party. Tell your needs straight, even if it makes you look bad in front of their eyes. Standing up for yourself and respecting yourself matters more than anyone treating you well over fake temptations.

5. Seek out positivity: It's challenging to seek positivity when you are most of the time surrounded by negativity. However, you cannot let it consume you, as you will fall into the hole of dreaded negativity, from which it will become difficult for you to get out. Therefore, it is important to indulge yourself in heartwarming activities like:

  • Prayer
  • Meditation
  • Dancing
  • Joining a sports activity
  • Journal
  • Spending time in nature
  • Hanging out with positive people


Your life is ultimately your responsibility. Once you can genuinely reach that conclusion, you can understand that you have options and the ability to control how other people will affect you. It is entirely your responsibility to take care of yourself when you are with certain people if you don't like how you feel around them. You might be affected by the way they are in some way. It is up to you to look after your own emotional needs, regardless of whether they are trying to rile you up on purpose or not.


I hope you find this blog post helpful. If yes, then let me know your views on protecting your energy from toxic people.

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