Do you feel like you think deeper than most people do?

Do you often get obsessed if a person talks rudely to you when you have done nothing wrong?

In that case, you may be a highly sensitive person, or HSP, if you believe you experience emotions more strongly than the average person. However, being an HSP also means being more sensitive to different stimuli and not simply having strong emotional feelings.

There is no denying that some people are more sensitive than others. They are perceptive to physical stimuli like energy, music, light, and other kinds of physical input in addition to emotions. 

Individuals with highly sensitive brains function differently from those with less sensitive brains. As a result, they pay more attention to details in their environment, analyze information more thoroughly, and think about it more. This deeper processing makes them more susceptible to overstimulation by their surroundings.

Here are some characteristics of extremely sensitive people, warning signals you might be one, and coping mechanisms.

Signs to look for if you are also HSP

How to cope with being HSP?

Final Thoughts

We all understand the value of a healthy diet, regular exercise, adequate rest, and balance between work and leisure. The reason all that is so crucial is something we don't often discuss, but it all comes down to safeguarding your mental energy. 

No matter how rich you are or how many resources you have, if you do not have mental peace within yourself, you have nothing.

Be it your ideal job or the best friend you always wanted, if having both is causing you more stress than anything then there is no point in having them in your life.

According to research, every one of us has a limited supply of mental energy. Every time we focus and make decisions, we significantly drain our daily mental capabilities, making it more difficult to maintain self-control later. It can be challenging to focus more effort on what is truly vital if you waste time and energy on decisions and chores that aren't as crucial.

Cutting out the clutter can help you maintain your attention on what really counts. Thus, it is important to maintain your energy for other tasks in your life. 

Let's find out how you can protect your energy from unwanted disturbances in your life.

Tips you must follow to protect your energy

1. Trust your instincts- Are you dealing with someone or something that feels unhealthy? By following your intuition, you can safeguard your energy. By observing how you feel after dealing with someone or anything, you can determine if they are bad for you. There is a reason why they make you feel worn out, distracted, or even a little overwhelmed. Pay attention and restrict your contact with anything or anyone that makes you feel odd.

2. Beware of distractions- It is practically difficult to accomplish anything with all the noise. Additionally, it can take upwards of 20 minutes to pick up steam after checking your notifications. Our brain energy is severely depleted by distractions, but this doesn't have to be the case. You must close any open windows, tabs, or apps that aren't necessary for the current task. Also, put your phone on "do not disturb" mode, so that you do not get distracted and waste your energy.

3. Understand that it is about them, not you- It can be easy to believe that anything is about you when someone is sad, angry, or just in a bad mood. Do not personalize it. You can never know what someone else is feeling, thinking, or going through right then. Keep in mind that someone else's behavior and words do not reflect you; rather, they reflect the person in question.

4. Define clear boundaries- Protecting oneself requires effort. If you stop being always available to your friends and family, they might even become angry with you. But that's okay! Your mental peace matters most right now! You must tell your friends and colleagues about the things that you don't like. Also, set limits on how much time and energy you can spend on certain activities and abide by them.

5. Don't strive for perfection- Although it's common to desire perfection, this isn't possible. Trying to be perfect all the time eventually saps a lot of energy. Perfectionism makes it difficult to complete tasks, especially if you feel obligated to complete everything yourself or to verify your work repeatedly. Extreme perfectionism may also be detrimental to your mental health, increasing your risk for depression, burnout, and work discontent. So, instead of striving to be perfect, learn the lessons and not repeat the same mistakes.

6. Make time for self-care: No matter how busy you are, you must take some time out of your day for yourself. This is important because doing things for yourself can help you regain your lost energy and make you more energetic and proud of yourself. You can indulge in any activity, be it dancing, walking, going to the gym, listening to songs, practicing guided meditation, or even sitting in silence. Do whatever you want. But you must make time for self-care.

Conclusion

With the end of 2022 approaching and the arrival of 2023, it is time to reflect on the 12 months that shaped you into the person you are today.

I remember in December 2021 I wrote a goal about publishing my first ebook on Amazon, which I accomplished in May this year. 

This ebook is close to my heart, as it made me start my journey of loving and accepting myself.

Now that 2023 is approaching, I was wondering if I should make another goal of writing my next book or something else.

With that in mind, here I am listing five daily habits that will help us improve our mental health in 2023. Because even if you are taking your vitamins, going to work, and earning money, if your mental health is not good, then there is no use for these worldly goods.

Habits to start in 2023 that will improve your overall health

Importance of setting emotional health goals

• More self-awareness- Setting objectives for your emotional wellness is a crucial step in becoming more self-aware. It can make you more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, as well as patterns in your life, which is extremely useful in stressful situations or emergencies.

• Improved relationships- When you have good emotional health, everything in your life—including your relationships—is good. Because when you value and take care of yourself, you won't let someone treat you disrespectfully.

• More clarity- By better understanding yourself, you can see more clearly what you want out of life. You may also discover that setting goals for emotional health gives you a stronger sense of purpose and direction.

10 emotional goals that you must set in 2023 and how to achieve them

Final Words

Don't we all want things to go our way? It is our right to be happy and content in all areas of our lives.

While we try to fix everything, be it jobs, relationships, or wealth, we forget to enjoy the little moments of life. We believe that we have to put more effort into getting the results we want. But sometimes, leaving things in God's hands can be fruitful.

Controlling every aspect of life can be draining and exhausting and can bring negative emotions, which can lead to dissatisfaction. When you realize you have no control over external events, you can redirect your efforts elsewhere. You can concentrate on the only thing over which you have control: your responses, mindset, attitude, and outlook. 

Furthermore, your confidence and focus can be increased, which can lead to a greater sense of strength and contentment.

Why do we feel the urge to control things?

There are times when some things will work out as we planned, and there will be times when things will not go our way. For example, suppose you recently resigned from your previous job and are now looking for new opportunities. There are times when you feel hopeful that this could be your career-advancing job, but you never hear back from them. In that case, you may feel disheartened, frustrated, and even resentful of your life.

No doubt, you want to take the matter into your own hands and take inspired action by applying for jobs to become financially independent. But seeing no results can make you feel anxious and demoralize your self-esteem.

Disadvantages of controlling everything

The process of controlling everything, such as applying for jobs for days or even months, can hamper your daily dose of joy in the following ways:

• More stress and anxiety- Those who want things to go their way may feel more stress and anxiety until they get the results they desire. Yes, it can be devastating to see no results but even holding to them will give you nothing.

• Dissatisfaction- Feeling the need for control and not having it can lead to dissatisfaction. For instance, I've been applying for employment for two weeks, but I've been frustrated with the lack of results, so I finally decided to let God handle the situation.

• More criticism and complaint- It is obvious that if we focus on the things that we don't have we tend to complain and criticize everything, be it ourselves, outside circumstances, or even our life. We blame external events for our frustration and may feel unworthy or dissatisfied.

How do we let go of control and focus on our happiness instead?

Final words

Self-love is not a new term for anyone. Whenever you open your social media, you always get a post shared by someone telling you to love yourself before you love someone else.

But there are still many men and women who claim they love themselves yet they get this urge to be loved by someone else, which is entirely normal. 

Even a self-love coach will like to settle down with the love of their life, but the only difference between a person who genuinely loves themselves and a person who only claims to love themselves, is that the former is never desperate to get into a relationship. A true self-lover focuses on improving themselves day by day while a "fake self-lover" gets upset seeing other people posting the reels with their partner.

Yes, sometimes it happens. When you are all alone, you want to get cuddled by your partner, talk deeply with them, and share your best and worst moments with them.

Because the honeymoon period is never the same, every relationship eventually hits a snag. Every challenge that both partners face tests their bonds. And sometimes, to save a relationship, a person gives and gives and gives until he has nothing left to give to save his relationship with his partner.

Are you also the same person who forgets their own space, time, and value and focuses on your partner and their needs?

If you answered yes, then this blog post is definitely for you.

Importance of self-love for a happy relationship

Since self-love is a life-long process, you may wonder if you can implement self-love while being in a romantic or non-romantic relationship.

But let me tell you, in a relationship, having a strong sense of self-love is one of the best ways to set yourself up for success. And, while self-love can be developed in a relationship, it's critical to distinguish between growing with your partner and relying on them for your happiness.

To not depend on the other person for your happiness, peace and love and instead share your happiness with them and being there for each other is a key to happy relationship.

Furthermore, if you love yourself, you will know your value and, as a result, you won't settle for anything less in a relationship.

How to cultivate self-love and not depend on someone else?

Self-love is the most beautiful thing. Some say they love themselves but in reality, they don't even know the exact meaning of it.

In my e-book, "It All Starts With You" I have explained everything about the same and how to cultivate it. From the things that stop us from implementing self-love to practical ways through which we can change our life. This book has it all.

How to develop self-love before you enter a relationship?

In order to practice self-love while being in a relationship, here's what you need to know about self-love and relationships:

1. You cannot expect the other person to know how you are feeling. Communication is the key.
2. You cannot be totally dependent on them for every little to big things.
3. You should have your own space and alone time and so should them.
4. They will treat you the way they see you treat yourself. Set standards for yourself.
5. You are already whole and perfect. You do not need to change yourself and neither do they have to change. Accept yourself and them.

Do you feel like bad things keep happening to you one after the other? If some days things are not happening as you desired, do you feel like something is not good?

Most of us live our lives feeling okay. We pray to God to get us out of bad situations, and when those situations disappear from our lives, we feel happy for a few minutes or days, and then we again get back to the cycle of feeling okay.

Everyone says to keep thinking positively all the time, but how do we do so? How can someone generate good thoughts 24x7? 

Is it possible? Let's find out!

Being positive all the time sucks!!!

Those who say "be positive no matter what" is simply spreading toxic positivity. According to Wikipedia- "It is a pressure to stay upbeat no matter how dire the situation is."

One cannot be happy or even okay if someone in his family is sick or he recently got fired. Hence, the point of remaining positive in difficult situations is invalid. 

However, developing and maintaining a positive attitude and having faith that you've got your back and that things will eventually get better can help ease your pain and let you live a stress-free life.

Well, in this blog post, we will get our answer and learn how to bring more positivity into our lives.

How to bring more positivity into your life?

Conclusion

Do you feel like you think deeper than most people do?

Do you often get obsessed if a person talks rudely to you when you have done nothing wrong?

In that case, you may be a highly sensitive person, or HSP, if you believe you experience emotions more strongly than the average person. However, being an HSP also means being more sensitive to different stimuli and not simply having strong emotional feelings.

There is no denying that some people are more sensitive than others. They are perceptive to physical stimuli like energy, music, light, and other kinds of physical input in addition to emotions. 

Individuals with highly sensitive brains function differently from those with less sensitive brains. As a result, they pay more attention to details in their environment, analyze information more thoroughly, and think about it more. This deeper processing makes them more susceptible to overstimulation by their surroundings.

Here are some characteristics of extremely sensitive people, warning signals you might be one, and coping mechanisms.

Signs to look for if you are also HSP

How to cope with being HSP?

Final Thoughts

We all understand the value of a healthy diet, regular exercise, adequate rest, and balance between work and leisure. The reason all that is so crucial is something we don't often discuss, but it all comes down to safeguarding your mental energy. 

No matter how rich you are or how many resources you have, if you do not have mental peace within yourself, you have nothing.

Be it your ideal job or the best friend you always wanted, if having both is causing you more stress than anything then there is no point in having them in your life.

According to research, every one of us has a limited supply of mental energy. Every time we focus and make decisions, we significantly drain our daily mental capabilities, making it more difficult to maintain self-control later. It can be challenging to focus more effort on what is truly vital if you waste time and energy on decisions and chores that aren't as crucial.

Cutting out the clutter can help you maintain your attention on what really counts. Thus, it is important to maintain your energy for other tasks in your life. 

Let's find out how you can protect your energy from unwanted disturbances in your life.

Tips you must follow to protect your energy

1. Trust your instincts- Are you dealing with someone or something that feels unhealthy? By following your intuition, you can safeguard your energy. By observing how you feel after dealing with someone or anything, you can determine if they are bad for you. There is a reason why they make you feel worn out, distracted, or even a little overwhelmed. Pay attention and restrict your contact with anything or anyone that makes you feel odd.

2. Beware of distractions- It is practically difficult to accomplish anything with all the noise. Additionally, it can take upwards of 20 minutes to pick up steam after checking your notifications. Our brain energy is severely depleted by distractions, but this doesn't have to be the case. You must close any open windows, tabs, or apps that aren't necessary for the current task. Also, put your phone on "do not disturb" mode, so that you do not get distracted and waste your energy.

3. Understand that it is about them, not you- It can be easy to believe that anything is about you when someone is sad, angry, or just in a bad mood. Do not personalize it. You can never know what someone else is feeling, thinking, or going through right then. Keep in mind that someone else's behavior and words do not reflect you; rather, they reflect the person in question.

4. Define clear boundaries- Protecting oneself requires effort. If you stop being always available to your friends and family, they might even become angry with you. But that's okay! Your mental peace matters most right now! You must tell your friends and colleagues about the things that you don't like. Also, set limits on how much time and energy you can spend on certain activities and abide by them.

5. Don't strive for perfection- Although it's common to desire perfection, this isn't possible. Trying to be perfect all the time eventually saps a lot of energy. Perfectionism makes it difficult to complete tasks, especially if you feel obligated to complete everything yourself or to verify your work repeatedly. Extreme perfectionism may also be detrimental to your mental health, increasing your risk for depression, burnout, and work discontent. So, instead of striving to be perfect, learn the lessons and not repeat the same mistakes.

6. Make time for self-care: No matter how busy you are, you must take some time out of your day for yourself. This is important because doing things for yourself can help you regain your lost energy and make you more energetic and proud of yourself. You can indulge in any activity, be it dancing, walking, going to the gym, listening to songs, practicing guided meditation, or even sitting in silence. Do whatever you want. But you must make time for self-care.

Conclusion

With the end of 2022 approaching and the arrival of 2023, it is time to reflect on the 12 months that shaped you into the person you are today.

I remember in December 2021 I wrote a goal about publishing my first ebook on Amazon, which I accomplished in May this year. 

This ebook is close to my heart, as it made me start my journey of loving and accepting myself.

Now that 2023 is approaching, I was wondering if I should make another goal of writing my next book or something else.

With that in mind, here I am listing five daily habits that will help us improve our mental health in 2023. Because even if you are taking your vitamins, going to work, and earning money, if your mental health is not good, then there is no use for these worldly goods.

Habits to start in 2023 that will improve your overall health

Importance of setting emotional health goals

• More self-awareness- Setting objectives for your emotional wellness is a crucial step in becoming more self-aware. It can make you more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, as well as patterns in your life, which is extremely useful in stressful situations or emergencies.

• Improved relationships- When you have good emotional health, everything in your life—including your relationships—is good. Because when you value and take care of yourself, you won't let someone treat you disrespectfully.

• More clarity- By better understanding yourself, you can see more clearly what you want out of life. You may also discover that setting goals for emotional health gives you a stronger sense of purpose and direction.

10 emotional goals that you must set in 2023 and how to achieve them

Final Words

Don't we all want things to go our way? It is our right to be happy and content in all areas of our lives.

While we try to fix everything, be it jobs, relationships, or wealth, we forget to enjoy the little moments of life. We believe that we have to put more effort into getting the results we want. But sometimes, leaving things in God's hands can be fruitful.

Controlling every aspect of life can be draining and exhausting and can bring negative emotions, which can lead to dissatisfaction. When you realize you have no control over external events, you can redirect your efforts elsewhere. You can concentrate on the only thing over which you have control: your responses, mindset, attitude, and outlook. 

Furthermore, your confidence and focus can be increased, which can lead to a greater sense of strength and contentment.

Why do we feel the urge to control things?

There are times when some things will work out as we planned, and there will be times when things will not go our way. For example, suppose you recently resigned from your previous job and are now looking for new opportunities. There are times when you feel hopeful that this could be your career-advancing job, but you never hear back from them. In that case, you may feel disheartened, frustrated, and even resentful of your life.

No doubt, you want to take the matter into your own hands and take inspired action by applying for jobs to become financially independent. But seeing no results can make you feel anxious and demoralize your self-esteem.

Disadvantages of controlling everything

The process of controlling everything, such as applying for jobs for days or even months, can hamper your daily dose of joy in the following ways:

• More stress and anxiety- Those who want things to go their way may feel more stress and anxiety until they get the results they desire. Yes, it can be devastating to see no results but even holding to them will give you nothing.

• Dissatisfaction- Feeling the need for control and not having it can lead to dissatisfaction. For instance, I've been applying for employment for two weeks, but I've been frustrated with the lack of results, so I finally decided to let God handle the situation.

• More criticism and complaint- It is obvious that if we focus on the things that we don't have we tend to complain and criticize everything, be it ourselves, outside circumstances, or even our life. We blame external events for our frustration and may feel unworthy or dissatisfied.

How do we let go of control and focus on our happiness instead?

Final words

Self-love is not a new term for anyone. Whenever you open your social media, you always get a post shared by someone telling you to love yourself before you love someone else.

But there are still many men and women who claim they love themselves yet they get this urge to be loved by someone else, which is entirely normal. 

Even a self-love coach will like to settle down with the love of their life, but the only difference between a person who genuinely loves themselves and a person who only claims to love themselves, is that the former is never desperate to get into a relationship. A true self-lover focuses on improving themselves day by day while a "fake self-lover" gets upset seeing other people posting the reels with their partner.

Yes, sometimes it happens. When you are all alone, you want to get cuddled by your partner, talk deeply with them, and share your best and worst moments with them.

Because the honeymoon period is never the same, every relationship eventually hits a snag. Every challenge that both partners face tests their bonds. And sometimes, to save a relationship, a person gives and gives and gives until he has nothing left to give to save his relationship with his partner.

Are you also the same person who forgets their own space, time, and value and focuses on your partner and their needs?

If you answered yes, then this blog post is definitely for you.

Importance of self-love for a happy relationship

Since self-love is a life-long process, you may wonder if you can implement self-love while being in a romantic or non-romantic relationship.

But let me tell you, in a relationship, having a strong sense of self-love is one of the best ways to set yourself up for success. And, while self-love can be developed in a relationship, it's critical to distinguish between growing with your partner and relying on them for your happiness.

To not depend on the other person for your happiness, peace and love and instead share your happiness with them and being there for each other is a key to happy relationship.

Furthermore, if you love yourself, you will know your value and, as a result, you won't settle for anything less in a relationship.

How to cultivate self-love and not depend on someone else?

Self-love is the most beautiful thing. Some say they love themselves but in reality, they don't even know the exact meaning of it.

In my e-book, "It All Starts With You" I have explained everything about the same and how to cultivate it. From the things that stop us from implementing self-love to practical ways through which we can change our life. This book has it all.

How to develop self-love before you enter a relationship?

In order to practice self-love while being in a relationship, here's what you need to know about self-love and relationships:

1. You cannot expect the other person to know how you are feeling. Communication is the key.
2. You cannot be totally dependent on them for every little to big things.
3. You should have your own space and alone time and so should them.
4. They will treat you the way they see you treat yourself. Set standards for yourself.
5. You are already whole and perfect. You do not need to change yourself and neither do they have to change. Accept yourself and them.

Do you feel like bad things keep happening to you one after the other? If some days things are not happening as you desired, do you feel like something is not good?

Most of us live our lives feeling okay. We pray to God to get us out of bad situations, and when those situations disappear from our lives, we feel happy for a few minutes or days, and then we again get back to the cycle of feeling okay.

Everyone says to keep thinking positively all the time, but how do we do so? How can someone generate good thoughts 24x7? 

Is it possible? Let's find out!

Being positive all the time sucks!!!

Those who say "be positive no matter what" is simply spreading toxic positivity. According to Wikipedia- "It is a pressure to stay upbeat no matter how dire the situation is."

One cannot be happy or even okay if someone in his family is sick or he recently got fired. Hence, the point of remaining positive in difficult situations is invalid. 

However, developing and maintaining a positive attitude and having faith that you've got your back and that things will eventually get better can help ease your pain and let you live a stress-free life.

Well, in this blog post, we will get our answer and learn how to bring more positivity into our lives.

How to bring more positivity into your life?

Conclusion

Do you feel like you think deeper than most people do?

Do you often get obsessed if a person talks rudely to you when you have done nothing wrong?

In that case, you may be a highly sensitive person, or HSP, if you believe you experience emotions more strongly than the average person. However, being an HSP also means being more sensitive to different stimuli and not simply having strong emotional feelings.

There is no denying that some people are more sensitive than others. They are perceptive to physical stimuli like energy, music, light, and other kinds of physical input in addition to emotions. 

Individuals with highly sensitive brains function differently from those with less sensitive brains. As a result, they pay more attention to details in their environment, analyze information more thoroughly, and think about it more. This deeper processing makes them more susceptible to overstimulation by their surroundings.

Here are some characteristics of extremely sensitive people, warning signals you might be one, and coping mechanisms.

Signs to look for if you are also HSP

How to cope with being HSP?

Final Thoughts

We all understand the value of a healthy diet, regular exercise, adequate rest, and balance between work and leisure. The reason all that is so crucial is something we don't often discuss, but it all comes down to safeguarding your mental energy. 

No matter how rich you are or how many resources you have, if you do not have mental peace within yourself, you have nothing.

Be it your ideal job or the best friend you always wanted, if having both is causing you more stress than anything then there is no point in having them in your life.

According to research, every one of us has a limited supply of mental energy. Every time we focus and make decisions, we significantly drain our daily mental capabilities, making it more difficult to maintain self-control later. It can be challenging to focus more effort on what is truly vital if you waste time and energy on decisions and chores that aren't as crucial.

Cutting out the clutter can help you maintain your attention on what really counts. Thus, it is important to maintain your energy for other tasks in your life. 

Let's find out how you can protect your energy from unwanted disturbances in your life.

Tips you must follow to protect your energy

1. Trust your instincts- Are you dealing with someone or something that feels unhealthy? By following your intuition, you can safeguard your energy. By observing how you feel after dealing with someone or anything, you can determine if they are bad for you. There is a reason why they make you feel worn out, distracted, or even a little overwhelmed. Pay attention and restrict your contact with anything or anyone that makes you feel odd.

2. Beware of distractions- It is practically difficult to accomplish anything with all the noise. Additionally, it can take upwards of 20 minutes to pick up steam after checking your notifications. Our brain energy is severely depleted by distractions, but this doesn't have to be the case. You must close any open windows, tabs, or apps that aren't necessary for the current task. Also, put your phone on "do not disturb" mode, so that you do not get distracted and waste your energy.

3. Understand that it is about them, not you- It can be easy to believe that anything is about you when someone is sad, angry, or just in a bad mood. Do not personalize it. You can never know what someone else is feeling, thinking, or going through right then. Keep in mind that someone else's behavior and words do not reflect you; rather, they reflect the person in question.

4. Define clear boundaries- Protecting oneself requires effort. If you stop being always available to your friends and family, they might even become angry with you. But that's okay! Your mental peace matters most right now! You must tell your friends and colleagues about the things that you don't like. Also, set limits on how much time and energy you can spend on certain activities and abide by them.

5. Don't strive for perfection- Although it's common to desire perfection, this isn't possible. Trying to be perfect all the time eventually saps a lot of energy. Perfectionism makes it difficult to complete tasks, especially if you feel obligated to complete everything yourself or to verify your work repeatedly. Extreme perfectionism may also be detrimental to your mental health, increasing your risk for depression, burnout, and work discontent. So, instead of striving to be perfect, learn the lessons and not repeat the same mistakes.

6. Make time for self-care: No matter how busy you are, you must take some time out of your day for yourself. This is important because doing things for yourself can help you regain your lost energy and make you more energetic and proud of yourself. You can indulge in any activity, be it dancing, walking, going to the gym, listening to songs, practicing guided meditation, or even sitting in silence. Do whatever you want. But you must make time for self-care.

Conclusion

With the end of 2022 approaching and the arrival of 2023, it is time to reflect on the 12 months that shaped you into the person you are today.

I remember in December 2021 I wrote a goal about publishing my first ebook on Amazon, which I accomplished in May this year. 

This ebook is close to my heart, as it made me start my journey of loving and accepting myself.

Now that 2023 is approaching, I was wondering if I should make another goal of writing my next book or something else.

With that in mind, here I am listing five daily habits that will help us improve our mental health in 2023. Because even if you are taking your vitamins, going to work, and earning money, if your mental health is not good, then there is no use for these worldly goods.

Habits to start in 2023 that will improve your overall health

Importance of setting emotional health goals

• More self-awareness- Setting objectives for your emotional wellness is a crucial step in becoming more self-aware. It can make you more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, as well as patterns in your life, which is extremely useful in stressful situations or emergencies.

• Improved relationships- When you have good emotional health, everything in your life—including your relationships—is good. Because when you value and take care of yourself, you won't let someone treat you disrespectfully.

• More clarity- By better understanding yourself, you can see more clearly what you want out of life. You may also discover that setting goals for emotional health gives you a stronger sense of purpose and direction.

10 emotional goals that you must set in 2023 and how to achieve them

Final Words

Don't we all want things to go our way? It is our right to be happy and content in all areas of our lives.

While we try to fix everything, be it jobs, relationships, or wealth, we forget to enjoy the little moments of life. We believe that we have to put more effort into getting the results we want. But sometimes, leaving things in God's hands can be fruitful.

Controlling every aspect of life can be draining and exhausting and can bring negative emotions, which can lead to dissatisfaction. When you realize you have no control over external events, you can redirect your efforts elsewhere. You can concentrate on the only thing over which you have control: your responses, mindset, attitude, and outlook. 

Furthermore, your confidence and focus can be increased, which can lead to a greater sense of strength and contentment.

Why do we feel the urge to control things?

There are times when some things will work out as we planned, and there will be times when things will not go our way. For example, suppose you recently resigned from your previous job and are now looking for new opportunities. There are times when you feel hopeful that this could be your career-advancing job, but you never hear back from them. In that case, you may feel disheartened, frustrated, and even resentful of your life.

No doubt, you want to take the matter into your own hands and take inspired action by applying for jobs to become financially independent. But seeing no results can make you feel anxious and demoralize your self-esteem.

Disadvantages of controlling everything

The process of controlling everything, such as applying for jobs for days or even months, can hamper your daily dose of joy in the following ways:

• More stress and anxiety- Those who want things to go their way may feel more stress and anxiety until they get the results they desire. Yes, it can be devastating to see no results but even holding to them will give you nothing.

• Dissatisfaction- Feeling the need for control and not having it can lead to dissatisfaction. For instance, I've been applying for employment for two weeks, but I've been frustrated with the lack of results, so I finally decided to let God handle the situation.

• More criticism and complaint- It is obvious that if we focus on the things that we don't have we tend to complain and criticize everything, be it ourselves, outside circumstances, or even our life. We blame external events for our frustration and may feel unworthy or dissatisfied.

How do we let go of control and focus on our happiness instead?

Final words

Self-love is not a new term for anyone. Whenever you open your social media, you always get a post shared by someone telling you to love yourself before you love someone else.

But there are still many men and women who claim they love themselves yet they get this urge to be loved by someone else, which is entirely normal. 

Even a self-love coach will like to settle down with the love of their life, but the only difference between a person who genuinely loves themselves and a person who only claims to love themselves, is that the former is never desperate to get into a relationship. A true self-lover focuses on improving themselves day by day while a "fake self-lover" gets upset seeing other people posting the reels with their partner.

Yes, sometimes it happens. When you are all alone, you want to get cuddled by your partner, talk deeply with them, and share your best and worst moments with them.

Because the honeymoon period is never the same, every relationship eventually hits a snag. Every challenge that both partners face tests their bonds. And sometimes, to save a relationship, a person gives and gives and gives until he has nothing left to give to save his relationship with his partner.

Are you also the same person who forgets their own space, time, and value and focuses on your partner and their needs?

If you answered yes, then this blog post is definitely for you.

Importance of self-love for a happy relationship

Since self-love is a life-long process, you may wonder if you can implement self-love while being in a romantic or non-romantic relationship.

But let me tell you, in a relationship, having a strong sense of self-love is one of the best ways to set yourself up for success. And, while self-love can be developed in a relationship, it's critical to distinguish between growing with your partner and relying on them for your happiness.

To not depend on the other person for your happiness, peace and love and instead share your happiness with them and being there for each other is a key to happy relationship.

Furthermore, if you love yourself, you will know your value and, as a result, you won't settle for anything less in a relationship.

How to cultivate self-love and not depend on someone else?

Self-love is the most beautiful thing. Some say they love themselves but in reality, they don't even know the exact meaning of it.

In my e-book, "It All Starts With You" I have explained everything about the same and how to cultivate it. From the things that stop us from implementing self-love to practical ways through which we can change our life. This book has it all.

How to develop self-love before you enter a relationship?

In order to practice self-love while being in a relationship, here's what you need to know about self-love and relationships:

1. You cannot expect the other person to know how you are feeling. Communication is the key.
2. You cannot be totally dependent on them for every little to big things.
3. You should have your own space and alone time and so should them.
4. They will treat you the way they see you treat yourself. Set standards for yourself.
5. You are already whole and perfect. You do not need to change yourself and neither do they have to change. Accept yourself and them.

Do you feel like bad things keep happening to you one after the other? If some days things are not happening as you desired, do you feel like something is not good?

Most of us live our lives feeling okay. We pray to God to get us out of bad situations, and when those situations disappear from our lives, we feel happy for a few minutes or days, and then we again get back to the cycle of feeling okay.

Everyone says to keep thinking positively all the time, but how do we do so? How can someone generate good thoughts 24x7? 

Is it possible? Let's find out!

Being positive all the time sucks!!!

Those who say "be positive no matter what" is simply spreading toxic positivity. According to Wikipedia- "It is a pressure to stay upbeat no matter how dire the situation is."

One cannot be happy or even okay if someone in his family is sick or he recently got fired. Hence, the point of remaining positive in difficult situations is invalid. 

However, developing and maintaining a positive attitude and having faith that you've got your back and that things will eventually get better can help ease your pain and let you live a stress-free life.

Well, in this blog post, we will get our answer and learn how to bring more positivity into our lives.

How to bring more positivity into your life?

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