Let us Love Ourselves

In 2020 when the pandemic hit the world, we all got stressed, anxious and upset. We had to stay away from our loved ones and isolate ourselves to protect them. But gradually, we made it through it, and in December 2020, we all wished for a happy new year. We all thought this coming year would bring back our happiness and everything would get better. But little did we know that this situation was going to be worse.  Wait, I am not going to make you feel depressed! A lot is going on right now, be it the shortage of beds, oxygen, or the poor development of our healthcare system. Our social media feeds are flooded with messages from people who need assistance or news outlets broadcasting disturbing images of dead bodies. When I see such posts on my Instagram account, I feel gloomy about the situation. That feeling of fear and numbness that I experience, I am sure you guys experience it too. But as it is said that- "Hope is the only thing that can help us get through the darkest of ti...

  The moment you wake up, you start surfing your social media to see what your friends or people whom you don't like in real life (but you are still following them over social media) have posted. If someone is putting a story of them running or working out, your first thought in the morning would be- "They are getting fit and I am still fat or ugly"!  And from that moment,  you curse or doubt yourself the whole day because you think that you are unable to do things that others are doing. This was 1 side.  The other side could be: You hurry to get ready for work an hour before it begins. Before heading out the door, you shower quickly and grab an energy bar and a cup of coffee. The day has not even started yet and you feel exhausted and by the end of the week, you are all so drained up and burnt. This week again you couldn't reach your weekly goals and the cycle goes on and on... So what is the exact way to set your life back on track? How can you set a morning routin...

Have you ever felt like a victim? Do you self-pity all the time?  Do you think the whole world is against you and no one seems to care about you? Well if you do so or if you know someone who always thinks he is helpless and powerless then it may be because of victim mentality. Who is a victim? A victim is someone who has been robbed, attacked, humiliated, tortured physically. But when someone intentionally tries to divert the situation around himself, we might say, "He is playing a victim card!" Why? Because we can easily understand that nothing has happened to him or nobody tortured him, still he is self-pitying himself for no reason. In general, we all are victims. At one point or other, we all have felt helpless. While some of us ditched our helplessness and stood firm but others couldn't leave their victim mindset.  Signs of a victim mentality Not everyone purposely plays a sympathy card, sometimes they don't know how to overcome a situation that leads to them bei...

  When you are indulged in pursuing your career goals, or fitness goals, or home duties, sometimes you forget who you are! While the sense of accomplishment you get feels good but it's important to focus on your mental health too. The moment you wake up, you start calculating your day's duties and responsibilities without even being grateful for the same day. It's not that you are a selfish and ungrateful person, but amidst everything going on in your life, how many times have you taken care of yourself? Do you take time out of your busy schedule to do a head massage? or How many times do you visit the salon for a hair spa? Giving yourself a mental break is as necessary as meeting your deadlines. People, in general, believe that if they won't do as much hard work as others do, they might lag behind. But you need to ensure that your competition is not with anyone else, but with yourself. So you need to take timely breaks to recharge and reset yourself. Here are 8 healthy...

 The new  year is here- which definitely means new resolutions! Although nothing exactly changes with a new year. But most of us take a pledge with ourselves that - "This time I won't let people hurt me nor I would beg someone to love me." However, with time some of us forget all our resolutions and start acting the same way we used to act the previous year. Same disappointments with different people! Have you ever thought about why someone else's behavior bothers you so much that your mental peace gets upside down? Think of yourself in a light and happy mood and suddenly you meet someone or talk to someone who instantly puts you in a low vibration mode. This person can be anyone from your family, work, social group, or your spouse. There are other cases also where we get hurt by our own people. Maybe their intention was not to hurt us or perhaps i f someone to whom we are attached does something which we didn't expect them to do, we immediately react and think vi...

  Sometimes when we are eating, small gravel comes and stuck in between our teeth, and when we realize it what do we do? Do we swallow it or throw it? Of course, we throw it. We never gulp it and say it's okay. It isn't a big deal!  We are so much aware of what to put inside our bodies physically.  But have you ever realized what are you putting inside mentally? Whenever something happens to us physically, the first thing we hear from our doctor is - "Change your diet" "Take care of your diet". Because diet is the reason for our physical wellbeing. And our thoughts are the reason for our mental wellbeing. Our thoughts determine if we are mentally healthy or not.  Moreover, if a person is physically ill, he/she has the power to get okay with his/her thinking pattern. Now, what is positive thinking and negative thinking? Positive Thinking vs Negative Thinking Positive thinking is a word which we have heard several times in our life. When someone is sad or ups...

  This year has affected a lot of us. Some lost their jobs, some couldn't meet their loved ones, some gained weight and what not! We all experienced different levels of emotions such as stress, anxiety, loneliness etc. Even till now many of us have not been able to fully get out of this situation and get out of our comfort zone. We are lazy, lethargic and don't want to get out of our comfort zones which of course is not good for us and then we weep that we are not doing anything or we are not getting what we want. This procrastination and laziness become our habit day by day and we don't even realize that. All of these and a lot more are bad habits that we develop slowly.  So to change the way of our living and to get what we want from our life I have come up with 10 healthy habits. 10 Healthy Habits To  Change Your Life 1. Start with Taking Care of Your Body- Start by taking care of our body. Our body exists for us. Lying on the bed all the time and doing nothing is of n...

When we were children we always wanted to grow up fast and become adults because we wanted to  hang out with our friends, to do a job or establish a successful career, to make money, to be in relationships, and w anted the freedom to do anything,  And now when we have become adults and behaving like adults on the outside, there is still a child present inside us who rejoices seeing an ice cream or having a candy.  That child may have seen or witnessed something shocking which did not get healed at that particular time. And now those wounded pieces of evidence can be seen in our present behavior which is very important for us to heal so that our present should not get suffered.  In our previous post-  why-you-must-reparent-yourself.html we have learned about what reparenting is and about our inner child. In this post, we will learn what we can do to reparent or you can say heal ourselves.

Imagine you have been asked to babysit a child,  How would you take care of him/her?  Or how you see a parent taking care of his/her child?  Obviously, every parent will give their best to their children. They are feeding them, making them aware of their surroundings, assisting them, helping them in their homework and other stuff, guiding them, and making them aware of right and wrong. As a parent or an elder sibling, you would never want your child or your younger sibling to suffer from anything, and also you would never try to intentionally hurt them. Despite providing care and nurturing to children, there are sometimes when a child feels neglectful. Some of us haven't got the same amount of love, time, attention, and validation in our childhood which has left a void in us and is somewhat still present there in our subconscious mind. That wound comes up when we are triggered or something terrible happens with us. To heal that wound, we need to Reparent Ourselves. ...

  source: Pinterest          If you have a friend who speaks to you the same way, you sometimes speak to yourself, how long he would be your friend? You will say, I would immediately cut off contact with him because he speaks rubbish to me and for me. But have you ever realized, that you are your biggest enemy when you speak those toxic and bad words for yourself! O ur mind is always thinking something depending on what circumstances are on the outside. When we have a dream, that is also caused by the thought patterns of our mind. Hence, about 95% of the time our mind keeps on thinking except when we are in deep sleep. Someone who is disempowering us, or not supporting us, or taunting us all of the time, we may not like to be with them, because all we are getting is negative vibes from them. But how can we run away from ourselves? When we do negative self-talk, we don't have the option to run away, all we can do is stop that thought, change that thought, ...